Step 9 - Love yourself exactly as you are~
If you love yourself exactly the way you are, unapologetically, everyone else will follow suit. Going back to the first step, learning about the things we love definitely helps, you learn more about who you are. Here are a few more questions to ask yourself.
These can be signs that you're not in alignment with yourself and are questioning who you are.
Step 8 - De-stress and self-care - Life Purpose Guide
De-stress and self-care
Most of the things we have talked about so far could be considered de-stressors and self-care. You will find if you don't continuously look at the ways you spend your time and reset how you might be doing things, you’ll become unbalanced. Just like riding on a bicycle becomes habitual and second nature, where you don't even have to think about the balance, it just happens, you need to form this same habit with self-care in your life.
I believe that learning to set boundaries and maintain them so you can protect your energy and time is the foundation of self-care.
How do you know when you need to set a boundary? If you are feeling obligated to do something to keep the peace or to avoid conflict a boundary needs to be placed here.
If you feel like someone is walking all over you or you feel like a doormat, a boundary needs to be set.
Setting boundaries is about deciding what is acceptable...
Life Purpose Series Step 7 - Connection
Being a part of a community makes you feel like you're a part of something bigger than yourself. It's important for us as human beings to feel accepted and to be able to offer our support to others. Being connected helps us feel a sense of purpose that we might not get from anything else.
I talk quite often about the Blue Zone Study and community is one of the Power 9, nine commonalities that lead to longer, healthier, happier lives. As a matter of fact, 3 of the 9 have to do with friends, family, and community.
Be sure to spend time with, talk to, or write to your friends and family every day. Connection is one of the basic human needs and is very important to connect with the people in your life. This is one of the most important pieces of the health and wellness puzzle.
This step can be very important right now especially after coming through the past year and a half.
Finding connection within some of the...
Get outside every day
I know this can be hard when you work indoors or also during winter weather. Making a point to be outside, even for 5 minutes, can make a difference in your mood, your energy levels, and it can even lower your blood pressure.
You are a living being that needs sunshine to feel good and to grow. Think of yourself as if you were a plant that needs the sun, water, and fresh air to grow and thrive.
Some of the things you can expect when you spend regular time outside every day:
Getting outside with a friend is even better and we will talk more about community later in the guide.
We all feel better...
This week we will be working on Step 5
Being active can help you control your weight, relieve stress and anxiety, improve energy, improved sex life, and reduce the risk of disease.
It always improves our mood and makes us feel better.
This is why I include this as a part of the life purpose journey.
If you really want to connect with yourself and your purpose you do need to take care of yourself. Self-care is key.
Yes, you can find your purpose in your life without movement but you might at some point be interrupted and thrown off course by dis-ease.
I can’t stress enough how important self-care is so don’t skip this part.
It is natural for us as humans to be active, so find something you love and do more of it!
As women, we always focus on taking care of everyone else and often fall short on taking care of ourselves. Keep in mind if we fail to care for ourselves we will not be able to care for others.
At some point, we burn out and sometimes get sick. While some of these steps will seem simple and may also be something you know you should already be doing, it’s not always something we are doing.
You might be thinking? What the heck does this have to do with life purpose?
Well, if we feel like shit we will not have the energy or the motivation to pursue any new ventures. I want you to have success and feel amazing.
It’s also hard to pursue anything new when you're sick.
My hope for you is to uplevel however you feel right now.
So let’s do this!
Eat Real Food
What is real food? Well, it's food that grows from the Earth, and food that has no label or under 5 ingredients on the label that are real food. This is really simple but not easy to do. It does...
Create a path where you feel lit up~
Some of the things we talked about in the last step, revisit what brings you joy, are things that really make you feel lit up inside when you're doing them. It's the feeling as if you're in a flow, time passes quickly and it's amazing how much you get done. It could be something simple like painting watercolor or something more complicated like volunteering. Either way, it lights you up!
These are the things you need to focus on and also need to spend the majority of your time doing. I understand, we all have responsibilities. This is true but, you can start shifting your life in a way to make things that bring you joy become your responsibilities. This can take time but if not now, then when??
To create more space for yourself, be aware of the things that are energy suckers, things, or people that make you feel crappy, anxious. and tired. Remove or mitigate these things from your life immediately. I don't know about you but I have no time...
This week we will be covering the second step from the free Finding Your Life Purpose Guide.
If you don’t have the guide yet, grab it here>https://www.tinastinson.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-rocking-your-second-half
~Re-Visit what brings you joy~
We as women get so busy with our family, careers, relationships, and sometimes the care of a parent. We can easily lose track of the things we used to enjoy. It's not just the big things like hobbies and traveling. It's the little things too. A walk in nature, a quiet cup of coffee with a book. We tell ourselves we don't have time.
Before you know it, we are going through our lives unconsciously not even aware that we aren't having too much fun, we lose our sense of self, you know that fun lady you used to know:) Now it's time for you to make time and find her.
Action step: Write down the things that brought you joy during the different stages of your life, anything you can remember.
I wanted to start a series to help women that may be feeling stuck, uninspired about their life as they enter or are in mid-life.
I have a free 12-step guide that you can download and have as a reference. You can grab it here: https://www.tinastinson.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-rocking-your-second-half
I hope you join me for this weekly series and be sure to reach out with any questions.
Everything we are surrounded with throughout our whole life gives us the impression that once we reach mid-life as women we are past our prime, old and worn out, and that we are at some kind of an endpoint.
Media and advertising lead us to believe that aging is not good and we should do everything in our power to stop and delay it.
It might make us feel stuck, unappreciated, somewhat invisible, overwhelmed, and just plain tired.
Well excuse my French but this is complete bullshit. Mid-Life is just the beginning and can be a fresh exciting start.
You've raised your kids and they're fabulous...
Fear can be a huge block when it comes to reaching any goal.
It's usually the reason that most people never fully achieve what they want to in life.
Yesterday I read a quote that I loved:
"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist" ~Oscar Wilde
I think this is so true. We really do let fear control the outcome of our lives.
Watch this video about a scary health scare I had that taught me a very strong lesson that helped me learn how to face my fears and always keep moving forward.
I help women learn to dream big and get what they want so they can live fully with purpose. If you want my help then reach out and let's talk about my private coaching and support. Be sure to ask about my email and FB Community Special that I put together just for you!
I can't wait to learn more about you!