If youâre struggling with the classic âmenopause wake-upâ at 3 AM, youâre not alone. The hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause can completely disrupt our sleep architecture. Ever since I went from perimenopause into menopause, I have not been able to have a good night's sleep on a regular basis.
It usually goes like this, I sleep great one night, then the next night I'll fall asleep but then I'll wake up around 3 or 4 am and be up for the day. That day around 4 pm, I'm exhausted but force myself to stay up so I'll have a normal night's sleep. This cycle just continues. So, I just get a good night's sleep half the time. This is not going to work for me, so I've been doing a bunch of things that help. It's not perfect but it has been helping.
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1.Get Active (Especially Outdoors) to Reset Your Clock - You'll notice when your active, especially when it involves being outdoors, You'll sleep better. Exercise increases your body's need for rest. It depletes your energy, raises b...
Most people begin the new year by trying to fix themselves.
New goals. New habits. New versions of who they think they should be.
But soulâaligned living doesnât begin with reinvention. It begins with remembering.
Remembering what your body already knows. Remembering what your nervous system has been asking for. Remembering who you are when youâre not performing, pushing, or proving.
This is an invitation to start the year differently. Not from pressure. Not from hustle. But from truth.
Tuning into my body and asking the question about all of my actions, how does this feel? Is this expansive/supportive or does this sap my energy?
This does not come naturally for me. I was raised by the generation that believes we always need to be doing something "Productive" All the time, every day. It's exhausting.
This work has to be really intentional, and I believe this can be the most supportive and beneficial work we can be doing for ourselves, and we should be doing this on a daily bas...
Every new year carries a little spark, a sense of possibility, a quiet invitation to start again.
But for those of us who feel the growing discomfort of staying the same, itâs more than a spark.
Itâs a lifeline.
If youâre standing at the threshold of a new chapter, tired of the old patterns, tired of pretending youâre not ready, this is your moment.
Not because the calendar says so, but because your inner world is done with the old chapter.
Why Real Change Happens From the Inside Out
New year resolutions fail when we try to upgrade our habits but leave our identity untouched.
If you want a true reset, true change, the kind that actually sticks, you have to shift the story underneath your choices:
⢠Who you think youâre allowed to be
⢠What you believe you deserve
⢠How safe you feel taking up space
⢠How much joy youâre willing to let in
⢠What version of you is quietly asking to be seen
This is the deeper work.
And itâs exactly why the new year can be such a powerful ene...
Thereâs a specific flavor of stuck that hits around this time of year.
Itâs that restless, buzzy, low-grade panic that says:
If I donât change something soon, Iâm going to lose my mind.
If thatâs you?
Good. That discomfort is your momentum.
Your soul is too big for the box youâve been living in.
And the new year is the perfect container, not because January magically resets anything, but because youâre mentally ready to stop negotiating with your potential.
Your Comfort Zone Isnât Safe, Itâs Just Familiar
We romanticize comfort like itâs security. Itâs not.
Comfort is a holding pattern.
Itâs the place you go when your nervous system is tired, overloaded, or afraid. Let's face it, this is where a lot of us are spending most of our time right now.
But comfort has a dark side:
Stay there too long and you start to shrink around your fears. Before you know it, your life is shrinking.
And if youâre reading this, youâre already too uncomfortable to stay where you are.
Youâre rea...
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Thereâs a certain kind of stuck that doesnât look like giving up.
It looks like pushing, trying, doing⌠and still feeling like youâre walking through wet cement.
If youâre honest, youâre not âa little off.â
Youâre deeply uncomfortable in your own life, in a way thatâs getting harder to ignore.
And as the new year inches closer, something in you is whispering:
This is it. Something has to shift.
Trust that whisper. Itâs not your imagination. Itâs your turning point.
Youâre Not Alone, A Lot of Us Are Here
Iâve been living this edge myself.
New era. New identity. New location. New work.
Itâs a bizarre mix of excitement and existential nausea.
And the people Iâm talking to right now?
Theyâre all in this same place, tired of looping, tired of pretending, tired of staying small because it feels familiar.
It's like a group awakening.
Theyâre ready for a reset not because itâs the end of the year⌠but because their soul is genuinely done being cramped.
Why We Stay Stuck Longe...
Every year, as soon as Halloween ends, the world seems to collectively lose its mind. Suddenly weâre blasted with holiday music in every store, inboxes fill with âmassive sales,â and weâre told, again, that this is the most magical time of the year.
ExceptâŚfor a lot of people, itâs not.
Some people donât get along with their families.
Some donât have anyone to spend the holidays with.
Some are grieving.
Some are exhausted.
Some dread the travel, the pressure, the cost, or the expectations.
And some just donât vibe with the whole thing at all.
But hereâs the truth no one says out loud: you are allowed to redefine the holidays for yourself. Youâre not obligated to follow societyâs ârules,â especially when those rules feel more like unpaid labor mixed with consumerism and a dash of guilt.
This season can be whatever you want it to be
Traditions are just habits someone invented long ago, usually a man, usually in a time when women were doing al...
One of the things I love to do with the Soul Aligned Life Community is to share what is working for me. As someone who has to be intentional about her self-care and my focus on keeping my stress and anxiety levels to a minimum. I'm always looking for ways to do this that are aligned with my vibe and my life.
Recently thanks to my talented kids I've been spending more time on creating. When I say creating, I'm talking about drawing, painting, crafts. I come from a long line of creatives and grew up doing this but haven't been spending any time in the recent embracing this side of myself.
Now that I started, it seems as though I can't get enough. I'm having so much fun and one of the side affects I noticed is while I'm doing these things, even thinking about these things, I'm not stressed or anxious. I think its actually impossible to be stressed if you're in creation mode.
Then by accident, I watched this ted talk by Amie McNee about art. You can watch it here if you would like. Sh...
What I'm doing as I move into my third most enjoyable era as a woman to stay healthy strong empowered and happier than ever.
This week is my birthday and I'm moving into level 57. My age has never bothered me for a couple of reasons. I feel pretty good and didn't really start feeling older until about 55. I think it's a privilege to get older and to be able to experience this part of my life. Society might not value me as an older woman but I do. Most women know how amazing we are at this age, hell at all ages. Women change so drastically through their lives. It's as if you slowed down the metamorphosis of a butterfly to last a human lifetime and this moment right here where I am, it's the grand finally, it's when I finally get to use my beautiful wings.
Moving into this stage has been a hard shift. Mostly physically. Kinda like when you go through puberty. Your hormones are bipolar, and your body is changing almost daily and there is little to no support from the "healthcare" syste...
October is my favorite month. The colors of the leaves, the cooler weather (sweater weather), the festivals, apple picking, pumpkin picking, my birthday, and Halloween! I mean, come on; it can't get much better than that. It's also so crazy busy for me I tend to get completely overwhelmed. I have the garlic farm harvest, the festivals I do for the garlic and the skincare business, Soul Aligned Infusions, and the birthdays and fall fun.
This year I'm making sure I don't get stressed by taking a few steps that I'll be sharing with you today, and for the podcast tomorrow I'll be sharing a meditation to calm the mind and body that you can do every day, so be sure to tune into that.
As I said, this is a very busy time for me right now and it might be for you too. It might be busier during different times of the year for you. Whatever your busy time is, I want you to use these strategies to keep the nerves calm and have some smooth sailing fun! Because pretty much all my business is fun st...
Big Decisions = New Chapters and Fear is a Natural Side Effect of that Growth
How can we normalize fear as a part of the process?
We love to imagine that one day, weâll wake up fearless and ready to make that big leap, whether itâs changing careers, moving across the country, ending (or beginning) a relationship, or stepping into something brand new and leaving something that is, oh so comfy. But hereâs the truth: fear never disappears. He's always there hanging over almost every decision we make, especially the big ones.
One thing I noticed bout myself is that ever since covid, I have this need to feel very comfortable and safe and, in some ways, doing this for myself is good. But I also noticed myself being paralyzed by just about any decision. This is because they all involve discomfort and fear. It's just part of growth. At first, I didn't notice I was even doing this, but now, I see it very clearly. If I don't let myself experience discomfort, I will not go anywhere. Everything...