Last week I talked about getting started and creating some forward action by setting some big goals and dreams. If you missed it you can listen HERE to Episode 023.
But we haven’t yet talked about what to do when that negative inner voice pops up and puts a stop to all those big dreams. What a party pooper, right?
Today, we are going to talk about this and learn how to understand where that voice comes from and how to deal with it.
First things first, that inner voice is not you. To understand where it comes from you first need to understand your fear response from the brain. When your brain perceives fear it will do anything it can to stop you from doing whatever you're doing. We have all heard of fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Sometimes these responses can be necessary. Most of the time not.
When you're about to do something and the voice in your head says you can’t do that, you’re too fat, too old, too young, whatever. This voice is trying to protect you. This is...
I’m going to start off this post by saying I have mixed feelings about this time of the year. “The Holiday Season”
Before my mom passed it was always great because she made it great. She was so over the top with every holiday. She just made it so fun.
I tried to continue this after she was gone but It seemed I was the only one who wanted to do this. Except for my kids, I think they just love it.
It was really hard for me to do this by myself as a single parent. But I carried over many of her traditions and added some of my own.
After the past two years, there was this weird feeling that I had and my kids also. It all felt so materialistic and unauthentic.
So, my question that I am still working on is how can I make my holiday and my kid's holiday special again all while having it feel aligned with our beliefs and our families values.
So we kinda don’t celebrate. At least there are no expectations. We always get together and have fun.
This is one...
I’ve recently done two series on my blog that I really loved.
-How To Find Your Life Purpose
-The Get Unstuck Series
While they both kinda help you do the same thing and can have some similarities, they both served a purpose to different people. Some felt really stuck and had a loss of purpose and some were just going through life changes and rediscovering a new purpose.
Both are extremely important and both are things I had to work through in my life.
It's important for me to help others through this process quickly so they can get on living and enjoying life.
I would consider this to be one of the great purposes in my life.
I’ve decided to combine the two series into one and for the month of December will be going over different things you can do to help yourself through this process. I'll be calling it The Live With Purpose Series.
Today, I want to share with you 3 simple ways to get you started.
I also want to add if...
Why Self-Care Is NOT Selfish
One of the things that I see day after day in my life and business is professional, driven women who feel guilty giving themselves any self-care at all even at substandard levels.
I believe this stems from the way the majority of us are raised from birth to always care for and make someone else happy before ourselves. We are expected to take the role of caregiver even if we work full-time, and or have a business. Not to mention, we are sometimes expected to take the brunt of the household chores as well.
This my friend is a heavy load to take on and is NOT sustainable without repercussions on our health.
The big part of the problem is convincing these amazing, smart, capable, and powerful women that they need to practice self-care daily and it is NOT selfish.
They need to go against society's unreasonable and might I say bullshit expectations of us to do everything, be everything, and look good doing it.
They need to...
Very recently I had a day. I was just feeling so blah and I was kinda mad because I had a lot of stuff I wanted to do.
But I know when I’m feeling this way It’s not the right time for me to write or do a live. So I’m basically not getting any work done.
So then my feelings move into not just blah but also a little bit stressed because I know I’m not getting anything done.
Have you been here? You need to get stuff done but your feeling kinda sad and then you're stressed because you're not getting anything done. LOL. A vicious circle.
This is when I know it’s time to treat myself to some self-care.
Here are a few ways I treat myself. When I take the time and give myself the space I can bounce back in just a few hours. Sometimes I just need a day though.
How Can I do More In Less Time(Without The Overwhelm)
It’s what a lot of people want, I know I do.
I’m always looking for ways to be more intentional about my time because I know it’s my most precious resource.
I don’t want to waste time on things I don’t really love doing. I want to do the things I love, the things that make me feel like I’m in flow.
Today I’m going to share with you some of the things that have worked for me and my clients when it comes to what I call “Time Expansion”, creating more time and space for the things you love and getting more done in less time!
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Know what’s important - You can’t really be intentional with your time unless you know what’s important to you. We spend a lot of time in autopilot, going through the motions. We sometimes aren’t even paying attention to the...
I wanted to start a new series on the Soul Aligned Self Care News that shares other coaches' and healers' views of how they use self-care in their lives or with their clients.
I think it’s important to have different points of view from different types of coaches.
My goal is to have coaches and healers who work differently than I do in order for you to have the most beneficial and expansive experience when you spend time in the SASC Community.
This is our second Group Post!
This week we are joined by 3 other amazing coaches, 4including myself.
I hope you find this helpful to you in your life.
Let’s get into it!
When I teach and use self-care practices in my life I always refer to it as Deep-Level Self-Care.
The reason I do this is that for me it's not only about some of the more surface-level practices like a hot bubble bath or getting my nails done with friends. Also very important.
I’ve been getting this question a lot lately and I’m always struggling to do this myself so I thought it would be a great topic to talk about today.
Why is it so hard to keep yourself in the present moment?
If you're living in the past you're reliving old things that happened and this can show up as depression. When you're living in the future you're worrying and anxious about what’s to be, and this can show up as anxiety. You worry about something that hasn't happened yet. This is where I spend a lot of my time.
Being in the present moment is the only place where you can have peace and feel happy.
This is where your happy spot is.
You have complete control of how you want to respond to your present moment. You get to decide to just be happy.
The past is done and doesn’t exist anymore. Leave it there.
Your future has yet to be determined.
You can have a powerful effect on your future by how you decide to feel and be in your...
3 Mindset Shifts To Get Your Power Back
One of my most important passions is helping a driven woman like you make self-care a daily habit.
The reason this is so important to me is that I don’t want anyone to experience the level of burnout I experienced in my life.
By making daily self-care a norm, you can keep overwhelm and burnout out of your experience and still be driven and successful!
I’m going to share with you 3 mindset shifts to make to start thinking about today.
1. When You practice self-care it gives to the power to put your best self into the world.
It is a common belief that self-care is just selfish and it should only be done when you have extra time or maybe after you worked yourself to death.
This is so untrue.
Think about the person you put forward when you're not rested.
You can be cranky, don’t have a clear mind to make good...
Continuing on with the Get Unstuck Series I want to add to the creation of your big dreams and goals.
You see I believe that you can have greater success and also faster success by really digging deep and learning what your “WHY” is.
Your “WHY” is the reason this big goal or dream is important to you.
When you set a big dream or goal that might seem hard, heck, it might seem impossible, you need to know why it’s important to you in order to stay in it for the long haul.
You see, sometimes you need to take many small steps to reach a big goal and it can get hard sometimes, challenging, and you may even have some setbacks.
You can sometimes get to a point where you feel defeated, almost like you’ll never get there.