Every new year carries a little spark, a sense of possibility, a quiet invitation to start again.

But for those of us who feel the growing discomfort of staying the same, it’s more than a spark.

It’s a lifeline.

If you’re standing at the threshold of a new chapter, tired of the old patterns, tired of pretending you’re not ready, this is your moment.

Not because the calendar says so, but because your inner world is done with the old chapter.

Why Real Change Happens From the Inside Out

New year resolutions fail when we try to upgrade our habits but leave our identity untouched.

If you want a true reset, true change, the kind that actually sticks, you have to shift the story underneath your choices:

• Who you think you’re allowed to be

• What you believe you deserve

• How safe you feel taking up space

• How much joy you’re willing to let in

• What version of you is quietly asking to be seen

This is the deeper work.

And it’s exactly why the new year can be such a powerful ene...

There’s a specific flavor of stuck that hits around this time of year.

It’s that restless, buzzy, low-grade panic that says:

If I don’t change something soon, I’m going to lose my mind.

If that’s you?

Good. That discomfort is your momentum.

Your soul is too big for the box you’ve been living in.

And the new year is the perfect container, not because January magically resets anything, but because you’re mentally ready to stop negotiating with your potential.

Your Comfort Zone Isn’t Safe, It’s Just Familiar

We romanticize comfort like it’s security. It’s not.

Comfort is a holding pattern.

It’s the place you go when your nervous system is tired, overloaded, or afraid. Let's face it, this is where a lot of us are spending most of our time right now.

But comfort has a dark side:

Stay there too long and you start to shrink around your fears. Before you know it, your life is shrinking.

And if you’re reading this, you’re already too uncomfortable to stay where you are.

You’re rea...

There’s a certain kind of stuck that doesn’t look like giving up.

It looks like pushing, trying, doing… and still feeling like you’re walking through wet cement.

If you’re honest, you’re not “a little off.”

You’re deeply uncomfortable in your own life, in a way that’s getting harder to ignore.

And as the new year inches closer, something in you is whispering:

This is it. Something has to shift.

Trust that whisper. It’s not your imagination. It’s your turning point.

You’re Not Alone, A Lot of Us Are Here

I’ve been living this edge myself.

New era. New identity. New location. New work.

It’s a bizarre mix of excitement and existential nausea.

And the people I’m talking to right now?

They’re all in this same place, tired of looping, tired of pretending, tired of staying small because it feels familiar.

It's like a group awakening.

They’re ready for a reset not because it’s the end of the year… but because their soul is genuinely done being cramped.

Why We Stay Stuck Longe...

Every year, as soon as Halloween ends, the world seems to collectively lose its mind. Suddenly we’re blasted with holiday music in every store, inboxes fill with “massive sales,” and we’re told, again, that this is the most magical time of the year.

Except…for a lot of people, it’s not.

Some people don’t get along with their families.

Some don’t have anyone to spend the holidays with.

Some are grieving.

Some are exhausted.

Some dread the travel, the pressure, the cost, or the expectations.

And some just don’t vibe with the whole thing at all.

But here’s the truth no one says out loud: you are allowed to redefine the holidays for yourself. You’re not obligated to follow society’s “rules,” especially when those rules feel more like unpaid labor mixed with consumerism and a dash of guilt.

This season can be whatever you want it to be

You Have Complete Creative Control

Traditions are just habits someone invented long ago, usually a man, usually in a time when women were doing al...

One of the things I love to do with the Soul Aligned Life Community is to share what is working for me. As someone who has to be intentional about her self-care and my focus on keeping my stress and anxiety levels to a minimum. I'm always looking for ways to do this that are aligned with my vibe and my life.

Recently thanks to my talented kids I've been spending more time on creating. When I say creating, I'm talking about drawing, painting, crafts. I come from a long line of creatives and grew up doing this but haven't been spending any time in the recent embracing this side of myself.

Now that I started, it seems as though I can't get enough. I'm having so much fun and one of the side affects I noticed is while I'm doing these things, even thinking about these things, I'm not stressed or anxious. I think its actually impossible to be stressed if you're in creation mode.

Then by accident, I watched this ted talk by Amie McNee about art. You can watch it here if you would like. Sh...

What I'm doing as I move into my third most enjoyable era as a woman to stay healthy strong empowered and happier than ever.

This week is my birthday and I'm moving into level 57. My age has never bothered me for a couple of reasons. I feel pretty good and didn't really start feeling older until about 55. I think it's a privilege to get older and to be able to experience this part of my life. Society might not value me as an older woman but I do. Most women know how amazing we are at this age, hell at all ages. Women change so drastically through their lives. It's as if you slowed down the metamorphosis of a butterfly to last a human lifetime and this moment right here where I am, it's the grand finally, it's when I finally get to use my beautiful wings.

Moving into this stage has been a hard shift. Mostly physically. Kinda like when you go through puberty. Your hormones are bipolar, and your body is changing almost daily and there is little to no support from the "healthcare" syste...

October is my favorite month. The colors of the leaves, the cooler weather (sweater weather), the festivals, apple picking, pumpkin picking, my birthday, and Halloween! I mean, come on; it can't get much better than that. It's also so crazy busy for me I tend to get completely overwhelmed. I have the garlic farm harvest, the festivals I do for the garlic and the skincare business, Soul Aligned Infusions, and the birthdays and fall fun.

This year I'm making sure I don't get stressed by taking a few steps that I'll be sharing with you today, and for the podcast tomorrow I'll be sharing a meditation to calm the mind and body that you can do every day, so be sure to tune into that.

As I said, this is a very busy time for me right now and it might be for you too. It might be busier during different times of the year for you. Whatever your busy time is, I want you to use these strategies to keep the nerves calm and have some smooth sailing fun! Because pretty much all my business is fun st...

Big Decisions = New Chapters and Fear is a Natural Side Effect of that Growth

How can we normalize fear as a part of the process?

We love to imagine that one day, we’ll wake up fearless and ready to make that big leap, whether it’s changing careers, moving across the country, ending (or beginning) a relationship, or stepping into something brand new and leaving something that is, oh so comfy. But here’s the truth: fear never disappears. He's always there hanging over almost every decision we make, especially the big ones.

One thing I noticed bout myself is that ever since covid, I have this need to feel very comfortable and safe and, in some ways, doing this for myself is good. But I also noticed myself being paralyzed by just about any decision. This is because they all involve discomfort and fear. It's just part of growth. At first, I didn't notice I was even doing this, but now, I see it very clearly. If I don't let myself experience discomfort, I will not go anywhere. Everything...

What if the very thing you’ve been told makes you “strong,” doing it all, all the time, is actually what’s draining you?

Hustle culture glorifies busyness like it’s the gold standard of success. But here’s the truth: being constantly exhausted isn’t a badge of honor, it’s a warning sign. And women, more than ever, are paying the price with burnout, overwhelm, and a complete disconnect from joy. I want to not just convince you to practice daily self-care but give you a path toward burnout recovery. We will explore how to reset the nervous system and start to normalize daily self-care for all women.

Women’s unpaid and unnoticed labor upholds a system that does not serve us in any way, and it's time to put ourselves first so we can choose where we direct our energy. Whether it’s ourselves or the people we love. We need to make it our choice.

How often do you say yes to things because they are socially expected? Because you're afraid of judgment? Or, you want to uphold a stereotype (Th...

Ditching the lone warrior myth, real power comes from sisterhood

Right now, more than ever, women need each other, not in theory, but in tangible, heart-centered connection. We’ve spent too long holding the weight alone, believing that needing support means we’ve failed. What if instead we embraced community as our source of true power?

Every week in my Patreon community I do a card pull from a deck. The card deck I'm using right now is called the Feminine Wisdom Oracle. This week's card was the Grounding Card. Yes, it talks about being in the here and now and uses a tree as a symbol. With the branches reaching out and the roots spreading wide underground, which creates its strength, it's no wonder this card is used as a symbol for grounding.

But what if there is a whole lot more to this? Trees are a part of an underground community that offers and receives support not just from other trees, but also other living species. They support each other unconditionally, taking care of each ...