Setting boundaries might sound a bit confrontational or limiting. Actually, it’s what I think is one of the most important forms of self-care/self-love and it is not limiting but actually very expansive and can help you live your life more fully being authentically yourself.
What exactly is a boundary? A boundary is a limit we set around what we consider acceptable and unacceptable behavior. What we will do or not do, accept, and tolerate.
A boundary is very personal, it has nothing to do with another person. It is our own setpoint for what is acceptable in our life and it is our responsibility to set and maintain them and no one else's.
If you feel someone has stepped over one of your boundaries it’s because you let it happen.
It is not someone else's job to uphold and respect our boundaries, it’s our job.
If you set a boundary and don’t hold to it then you will send the message that no one else has to respect it either.
We teach people how to treat us.
Self-care To Help With Anxiety
When all the crap started in 2020 (Too much crap to list for all of us), I'm not gonna lie, I was freaking anxious. And I knew I needed to make some adjustments. My anxiety level was unreasonable and I knew I needed to get it to chill. I started to do some research on how I could do this naturally.
Keep in mind in order to really make changes in the way you feel you have to do the work. If you want to feel different then you have to be different. So commit to doing the work when you get started.
Here are a few changes I made that helped.
I Cut Back On The Caffeine
This was tough for me, I love coffee and it's such a huge part of my routine. The more I read about it, the more I knew it needed to be done!
Caffeine can not only increase anxiety levels but even worse people with anxiety can be more vulnerable to its effects. I now drink mostly decaffeinated which I did gradually over time. If you want to know my system, contact me and I'll share.
This week I thought it would be great to talk about learning how to say no to things you really don't want to do so you can say yes to things that light you up inside.
This is a way to prioritize and protect one of your most valuable resources! Time.
So make sure when you say yes to something it's a hell yes! Agreed?
Today I'm going to cover 3 different situations and how to say no.
To The Boss - When You Don't Have The Time
“I know this project/work is important to you. Can we spend some time looking at my current responsibilities because I want to do my job very well and I don't want anything to fall through the cracks. I can get this done for you but we might have to put another project on the back burner so I can give you my best work for this one.” It's the truth and it's polite and respectful.
To A Close Friend Or Family Member – If You're Currently In A State Of Over Scheduled Overwhelm
“ I'm sorry I'll have to pass right now....
Now that we are coming into the cooler months and the kids are kinda going back to school it's also time to get our healthy habits back on track.
With everything that is going on in the world today, I can sometimes get overwhelmed and I decided to write this post with this in mind.
What can I do that only takes a few minutes that will improve my health and keep me on track? Here are 5 things to get you started.