Embracing your Second Act: Empowering Mindset Shifts for Women Midlife

I don’t know about you but as I am well into being a midlifer and most of the time I fail to feel or remember this fact. I still feel like I did when I was in my twenties but much better as far as confidence and nofucksgiviness. Yes, this is my new word.

I truly believe this is because I’m always working on and upgrading my mindset to keep me inspired and feeling good. I also believe that being single has helped with this quite a bit. 

Hear me out. It’s just me in my household and sometimes that does suck, like when you're sick and you have to walk the dog. Most of the time what it does is give me the freedom to do whatever I want when I want without any judgment or insecurities. I know  a lot of people do have this type of a relationship with their significant other but I never did. 

I like the fact that if I want to change anything about myself and my surroundings I don’t...

5 Actions You Can Take To Get Unstuck

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Every one of us has those points of transition in our lives. Sometimes We move through them with no problem, it’s not usually enjoyable but we keep moving forward so it’s over at some point. Then we have those times where we know we are in a transition period but we’re just not moving forward, we're stuck and it’s so frustrating. 

I’ve definitely been here, more than once, and I have a few things I do to push myself up and out and start to move forward. 

So, why do we get stuck? Well, this can be different for everyone but a lot of times it's because we are in a state of fight, flight, or freeze. Hence the freeze part. Also, it might just be the fear of the unknown and your own body & brain not letting you leave your comfort zone. 

hen we are in freeze because we experienced something very stressful or traumatic, your brain goes into protection mode. It’s your...

Using Intuition To Get Unstuck

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One of the very clear lessons I’ve learned on my path to getting unstuck and finding my purpose is how important my intuition is, my gut instinct, my inner guidance, my higher self. Whatever you want to call it. This connection with ourselves, our heart and soul to the brain is so important and I would say necessary in order to really be aligned. 

The reason I felt completely disconnected with myself for so long was because I was living in a state of fight, flight, freeze, survival, stress and anxiety, my whole life. When you're in this state, your brain is only focused on basic survival, keeping you safe, and using as little energy as possible. 

Some of the things that are important are keeping you alive even if the situation is not beneficial or supportive to your growth and happiness. So, thriving and living your life fully is not at the top of the list, survival and energy conservation is. 

To...

Unstuck: Embrace Change, Embrace Growth

I think being alive right now in a time where so many people are waking up to the need of being in alignment with their purpose is amazing. 

It’s not just people of a certain age. I see this in all ages and many different personalities. 

We are all asking the same question, what the heck am I doing in my life? Why does it feel so meaningless and how can I add more meaning and purpose to my life? 

The reason I think it's so amazing is because this is how we’re supposed to be living. We are supposed to be free and happy. We are supposed to feel passionate about the days we have here on this planet, and we are supposed to be at peace. 

We all have amazing things to offer this world, and they’re all unique. Last week I talked about last week, how to embrace your quirks as your superpowers, one of the things I talked about is how we are meant to be and share our authentic selves with the world, we are not meant...

There have been many times in my life that I’ve entered that dreaded stuck phase. It usually starts with you not realizing you're stuck, then you start to get frustrated, and me, I get cranky, then I get to the point where I just cry. I sometimes skip past all the phases but most of the time I work through them and it’s because of this one thing. 

FEAR

The worst thing about fear is that it's the first thing our brain goes towards. I’m pretty sure this is meant to protect us but a lot of the time, we get stuck, frozen in time. We keep going through the motions of our life in the phases I talked about above until we’re so uncomfortable that we have to do something. 

As this is my new series of essays about living life on my terms. I’ve decided that from this point forward I’m going to take drastic steps to keep moving forward. Become more aware when fear gets a hold of me and take a leap forward embracing this fear. 

I actually know...

Reframing - Why is this happening for me and not to me?

Did you ever get stuck in one of those cycles where nothing is working out? You think things can’t get worse and then they do, and again, over and over?

We’ve all been there, right? 

So what do you do to get out of this horrific cycle? How do you respond and not react to it?

One of the most powerful shifts I’ve made in my life was when I learned to ask myself a question whenever I was in this situation. 

It’s so simple but it’s hard to bounce out of the old mindset into the new. 

Old mindset: OMG Why is this happening to me?

New Mindset: Okay, deep breath, why is this happening for me? <<Powerful Question, Right Here<<

• What am I supposed to learn?
• Why am I being redirected in my life and how can this help me, what can I learn?

You see when we are in a rut or we believe things aren’t working out for us it's almost always because we are out of alignment with...

To all the ladies who feel stuck,

In my last post, I talked about the first step to take to get unstuck and I shared you need to know what you want and you need to think big. 

This is the best way to start because you can't get to where you want to be unless you kinda know where you're going, right?

Another point I want to talk about is that change will not happen unless you reach that point, The Breaking Point, because we won't really be motivated to change unless we are so uncomfortable that it's more uncomfortable than the fear of making the changes. 

Our brains are built to keep us alive, not happy. So it's pretty uncomfortable for us as human beings to make these changes. 

So how do you know you're at that point? Well just like I said above. It's more uncomfortable to stay where you are. 

Some of the things I hear from women and have felt myself at one point are:

• You feel lost and have no idea who you are anymore.
• You're tired of filling everyone...

Last week I talked about getting started and creating some forward action by setting some big goals and dreams. If you missed it you can listen HERE to Episode 023.

But we haven’t yet talked about what to do when that negative inner voice pops up and puts a stop to all those big dreams. What a party pooper, right?

Today, we are going to talk about this and learn how to understand where that voice comes from and how to deal with it. Listen to the podcast version of this blog post >>HERE<<

First things first, that inner voice is not you. To understand where it comes from you first need to understand your fear response from the brain. When your brain perceives fear it will do anything it can to stop you from doing whatever you're doing. We have all heard of fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Sometimes these responses can be necessary. Most of the time not.

When you're about to do something and the voice in your head says you can’t do that, you’re too fat, too...

I’ve recently done two series on my blog that I really loved.

-How To Find Your Life Purpose

-The Get Unstuck Series

While they both kinda help you do the same thing and can have some similarities, they both served a purpose to different people. Some felt really stuck and had a loss of purpose and some were just going through life changes and rediscovering a new purpose.

Both are extremely important and both are things I had to work through in my life.

It's important for me to help others through this process quickly so they can get on living and enjoying life.

I would consider this to be one of the great purposes in my life.

I’ve decided to combine the two series into one and for the month of December will be going over different things you can do to help yourself through this process. I'll be calling it The Live With Purpose Series.

>>Listen to the podcast version HERE<<

Today, I want to share with you 3 simple ways to get you started.

I also want to add if...