Creating Stability & Peace in an Unstable World

We crave stability, structure, and safety. We like to have some inkling of how things will work out, knowing a situation is a safe place for us to be. What we have right now, though, is a different story.

We live in a world where the rules seem to change daily, or maybe there are no rules at all.
What we once knew as “the norm,” the things we could expect, has turned into anything can and will happen.

We wake up every morning to a new emergency, disruption, or disaster, and that’s just the world outside of us. We also have all of our own personal challenges to deal with.

So, how do we find comfort, calm, and peace in a world where it seems there are no rules, and the so-called people in charge are behaving badly and making up their own as they go?

This constant uncertainty puts us in a state of stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. The more you tune into it, the more stressed you will feel.

Today, I want to share some things you can do to help you feel grounded in a world that seems to be trying to shake you off its surface.

Know that the only person you can control is yourself.

One of the best realizations you can have is that you choose what you expose yourself to. You get to choose whether to react or respond. You can choose to see the world in a way that supports you instead of letting someone else write the narrative of your story.

This isn’t just the first step, it’s the most important one. Knowing that you have the power in your hands to create the narrative of your own experience changes everything. So, how can you make it a good experience?

Choose what you expose yourself to.

Start paying attention to what you consume in the media.

• Are you watching the news every day?

• What TV shows and movies do you watch?

• Who are the people you spend time with?

• What emails land in your inbox?

• What social media fills your feed?

Last week, I talked about social media and how much time we waste just scrolling, you can listen to that podcast episode HERE.

It all starts with awareness. There’s a reason they call all this information programming. Take the reins of what you consume.

The best thing you can do for your mental and physical health is to stop watching the news. Then look at everything else you take in and ask: Does this make me feel good or bad?

I’m not saying to put your head in the sand (though sometimes that does sound nice). I’m saying: create your own narrative instead of letting someone else do it for you.

And remember, those so-called people in charge do not have your best interest at heart.

Create your own set of rules and morals.

We all know right from wrong for the most part. Be nice. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Understand that most humans want the same things, safety, security, and happiness.

Even though laws change and shift every day, we still know right from wrong. Do the right thing. Be kind. Help your neighbor. Treat the planet with respect. Be a good human.

Just because the people in charge act like they’re living in The Purge doesn’t mean we have to mimic them.

We have a choice.
What did our parents used to say when we left the house as teenagers? Make good choices.

Do that. Be better than them. We outnumber them, let’s create something better.

Take care of your nervous system.

I’ve had to really up my own game here. My blood pressure spiked again, and I noticed my body slipping into fight-or-flight mode far too often.

By taking the steps above, and deepening my self-care practices, I feel better.

Check in with yourself daily. Ask: What do I need today?
Maybe it’s breathwork, meditation, yoga, movement, a tech break, or time in nature.

We have to be proactive with self-care right now. We need more care, more joy.
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Have more fun.

I know it’s hard right now. We’re all working hard and feeling a little on edge. But ask yourself: What brings me joy? What makes me happy?

If you can’t answer, that’s a sign you need this exercise:

• Grab a piece of paper.

• Write down 100 fun things you want to do in the next 1–5 years.

This isn’t easy, you may not get to 100 right away. That’s okay. This list is meant to be ongoing. Add to it when you think of something. Cross things off when you’ve done them or changed your mind.

Include big dreams and small pleasures. Start today, and when you need more fun, look at your list and take one small step toward one of those things.

Remember, small steps done consistently over time create big transformations. They build confidence, momentum, and joy.

This is how you take the reins back.
This is how you create calm in the middle of chaos.

If you want more support with your self-care, come hang out with me on my Patreon Soul Aligned Life—you’ll get weekly support and tools to regulate your nervous system and take deeper care of yourself. Click HERE to join.

I also offer my Soul Aligned Self Care Intensive, the deep work to heal your nervous system, reclaim your power, and live fully. This self-guided course is packed with tools to help you thrive. Learn more HERE.

Until next week,
Lots of love and care,
Xo, T