Creating Your Personalized Self Care Tool Box

So, what is your Self Care Tool Box? That’s a pretty legit question because it can mean a lot of things. 

A self-care toolbox are solutions you create for yourself that help you work through difficult situations and emotions. It's about learning what helps you feel better and move through those tough emotions and situations and taking note of it in a notebook or journal and then being intentional to use those tools when you need them.

When we take the time to create a space in our journal or if you don’t have a journal, in a notebook where you keep track of what helps you feel better and also helps you move through those tough emotions, you can then respond to your life and not just continuously react.

So, I suppose the next question would be, what are tough emotions?

Well, some of the tough emotions for me would be sadness, stress, anxiety, anger, and frustration. Everyone is different though and so you would name the ones that you st...

How To Get Unstuck Using Baby Steps

So, you’re feeling stuck. We all end up here at different times in our lives and sometimes it can be brief but sometimes, it can feel like forever!

Now, there are two ways you might feel. One might be that you are completely discontent, uninspired, in need of a change but you're not sure what. The other is you’re comfortable where you’re at and it feels pretty good, but you feel something new brewing. You don’t know what it is, but you feel it coming and you’re not sure how to move forward to stir up the change needed. 

Whatever camp you're in, it can be very frustrating when you just don’t know what to do to move forward. When we are in our comfort zone but at the same time know that a change is needed in order for us to grow and expand, it can feel overwhelming. Anything new can seem so far-fetched or it can seem like an enormous amount of work and both of these situations can make you become frozen in place. 

Today I want to talk about how you...

Have you ever felt somewhat stuck in your life? Like no matter what you try you can’t seem to move in the direction of where you want to go. Now you might feel awful, but you also might feel very inspired with big dreams and goals, but you're frozen in a state of overwhelm. So, How Do we,

Get Unstuck & Create Momentum in Your Life?

We all feel this way at some point in our lives, as a matter of fact I believe we go through this in cycles when we are experiencing growth or need to experience growth. 

So, if you can describe yourself as the first person, just completely stuck and somewhat unhappy, then the first thing I would ask you is what do you want? Almost always the person says to me, I don’t know what I want. Then I would move on to how you want to feel. If life was perfect, what are the feelings you would be experiencing on a daily basis? Start with that. 

Most of the time when we are working towards a goal it’s not the actual goal or material thing we want, the big hou...

Most of us have this negative reaction when we hear about failure. 

It’s viewed as this bad thing that we need to avoid. The dreaded F Word!

What a lot of us don’t realize or ignore is that failure is just a part of the process as your work your way to success. 

Most successful people will tell you. In order to succeed or reach a goal or dream you will have to fail forward. 

The more we can define this F-word as FEEDBACK instead of FAILURE the faster we can reach our goals. 

Think about it. We set a goal, or we have a dream. We then take the next step and that is we decide how we will move forward to reach this goal. (The first step) 

We then take the step. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. Most of the time it's a little of both. 

What happens next is the most important part of being successful. 

• Do you say to yourself, well that didn’t work, guess I’m not cut out for this and then go back to whatever you’ve been doing before this goal. 

OR

• You say to yourse...

Happy New Year!

I love the time and space we have right before the new year. You know from that time after the Christmas holiday is over to the new year. I know, this title sounds too good to be true, 

Creating Your Dream Life, Live in Your Purpose, & Be Happy.

But why not start the year off this way!

If you want to check out the podcast on this topic, head over HERE.

I spend this whole week reflecting on my past year, creating the space I need for the new, and then dreaming, planning, and creating inspiration for the new year. 

What comes up always surprises me. Last year I decided on creating consistency in my business. I would say I was very successful in doing this. 

Now, I want to redesign and simplify how I show up to make it clear to everyone in my world what kind of work I do. My main focus is inspiring women to step into their power and out of burnout and overwhelm, acknowledge their true selves. I do this with mindset shifts and deep level self care and self love.

So,...

(Exercise Included in this post) Originally the topic of this post was, Eating Real Food, sounds so silly, right?

I have to tell you though, the next time you go to the grocery store tell me how much “real’ food is there. 

The answer is, not a lot

That is if you define real food as something that comes from the earth or a food that has 5 or less ingredients…real ingredients. 

For real, the next time you go, pay attention to everything around you. There is not a lot of real whole healthy food. 

When someone asks me the way to get healthy and lose weight, I just say, Eat Real Whole Food. I also eat plant-based but I leave that for another post. For now, I want you to just agree to focus on this for your health. 

Most people think it can’t be that simple. Well, putting any other serious health issues aside that some people might be struggling with, yes, it is that simple. 

It’s just not easy to do. The food industry makes it hard for us to figure out what we should and should not e...

Last week I talked about how After I had a stroke at 39 from stress I had to learn how to care for myself at a deep level in order to survive. What I didn’t talk about is the 11 Deep-Level Self Care practices I used to get there but I’m not just surviving, I’m thriving! 

My biggest lesson and message I share is that when you learn that deep-level self-care is NOT selfish, putting yourself first is NOT selfish. It serves everyone. 

That statement might trigger a few people. I know it would have me triggered years ago because I based my worth on how I cared for others and how much I could do for others. 

Basing your worth on something outside of yourself is a recipe for disaster. Depending on another person or situation to make you feel good, happy, and fulfilled in life will always leave you feeling unsatisfied and puts unneeded pressure on all of your relationships. The only person that can do those things for yourself is you. 

By using these self-care practices my intention at the...

I have given a lot of time to think about how cool it would be to go through your younger years of life with all the knowledge I have now as a woman in my mid-life era or what I like to call my Villan Era, oh how much fun it would be. I would be so powerful it would be dangerous. 

This is why when I see the younger generations of women stepping into their power so amazingly I am in the front row of their cheering section. I’ll do anything to champion these young girls and women and live through their experiences with the pride of a mother. I will also do everything to raise that generation up. 

That’s where the topic came from for this blog. If I could send my younger self all my knowledge from the life that I lived so far, what would it be? What would I say to that young, insecure girl with a full life ahead of her? 

Here are some of the things on my list:

Don’t care about what anyone else thinks or says.

Nobody out there cares what you're doing. I swear, NOBODY.  Everyone is foc...

I’m a dog person for sure. As in, my dogs are my second set of children. I’ve learned there are a couple of different levels of “dog person”. There's my crazy level. Then there are people who say they’re dog people but have to wash their hands after they touch one (Not from allergies) Now there is no hate coming from me. It’s just me noticing a difference. 

Over the past couple of years, I’ve become closer with my dogs. You know through the pandemic and them being my most favorite companions ever.

There is a lot to say about the love and companionship we get from our pets or if you're like me, your furbabies, and today I want to share a few things I’ve learned just from watching and spending so much time with them.

These things I believe are life-changing, meaning they can change our health and our relationships for the better. How many times have you heard people say, “I like animals more than I like people” There is a reason for that and I believe we should all take a closer look ...

This is a fairly new lesson I’m learning with the help of this unpredictable completely crazy world we’re living in right now. Every day we hear terms like, unprecedented, challenging, turbulent, and unmatched, I could go on but I think you catch the drift.

It's been a ride that just keeps getting crazier and crazier. Just when you think something crazier can’t possibly happen, it does. I question nothing now and if someone said there's been a bird zombie outbreak, I’d be like, okay, what else you got, bees that electrocute us, no problem, I got this. 

The truth is though, that I don’t. This is a lot and the weird underline stress of it all wears you down. This is where my new lesson comes in. How do I hear about all this craziness but still stay sane and on the path I want to be on, how do I stay positive through the world drama? How do I keep myself healthy and as happy as possible? Good question right?

Well I have some suggestions, but I’ll be the first one to admit, It’s a wo...