Hey guys, happy new year.
I'm so excited to be back.
I took a little time off and now I'm back and this week we are talking about living in your dreams into your purpose.
I share a little bit about the process I go through every year in between Christmas and New Year's and how I plan my year out
and I'll be going over all of that in this episode but most importantly, how can you shift so that you're living in your purpose in your dream life?
How can you start to do this a small percentage of the time or a hundred percent of the time?
Let's get into it.
You're listening to the Seoul Aligned Self-Care Podcast. I'm your host Tina Stinson and I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world.
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Hello guys and welcome back to the Seoul Aligned Self-Care Podcast.
Thank you for joining me. I'm so excited to be back. I took a little time off in between Christmas and New Year's and I'm excited to start the year off with you guys.
Just very excited. Anyway, there's going to be some changes. No big changes really. I'm just kind of changing the look of the podcast.
Everything's going to be redesigned. It's going to be new logos.
And so you'll see those changes as we move forward probably next week I'm guessing.
But today, today, what we're talking about is we're talking about how can we live in our purpose?
How can we spend time every day living in our passion and our purpose?
And if not, why not live that 100% of the time? Why not?
Now I know that we can't just quit our jobs and say your purpose or your passion is painting.
And you can't just paint all that. You can't just go from one to the other just like that.
I realize that. But you can take small steps starting today working your way towards that.
Working your way towards spending 100% of your time doing things that you absolutely love that you feel passionate about.
And I also realize that this isn't always rainbows and butterflies all the time just because you're living in your purpose
doesn't mean that everything's always going to be perfect.
It just means that you're spending 100% of your time moving towards things that are aligned with your core values.
The things that you're passionate about, the things that bring you joy.
And this is definitely a shift that I started doing probably starting in 2020.
Right? And every year in between Christmas and New Year's, whether you celebrate it or not,
I just love this space. It's like this kind of empty space.
And some people are very busy with celebrations and family activities.
But this space for me is like this quiet,
hibernation time where I spend time planning for the next year.
And I just love this time. Right? I love having all of it maybe even some of it to myself.
And I love doing the whole planning process.
And I wanted to share that with you today kind of what I go through.
So this year when I when I first started, well, let's talk about last year,
last year when I did this process, I'm always surprised by what comes up when I do this.
Because it's not usually what I expected.
And I usually make some kind of a decision, like an overall theme of what I'm going to spend
my time focusing on. And last year it was basically spending time kind of being very consistent with
my business, like the way I show up. Because I don't, I didn't think I was being very consistent before.
So I wanted to be consistent. And I think that I really did that successfully this year.
I'm really happy with the results. And now this year when I did the work that I do every year,
I really decided that I wanted to simplify and streamline my business really, really,
like get uber focused on the problem that I solve for the people that come into my life,
hiring me as a coach. And that is one of like inspiration. Like I love to inspire women
that are feeling kind of overwhelmed and overworked and burn out and move them into like a state
of balance and flow in their life. And I do this through mindset work and I do this through my 11
deep level self-care practices that I teach in all of my programs. And it's very streamlined. So like
if you're a woman and you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed and maybe even burnt out,
then I'm your, I'm the one that's going to help you with this. And I'll do it through mindset work
and those deep level self-care practices. So it's very, very streamlined. And so I decided to like
redesign all of my programs, renaming some of them, renaming a lot of the stuff that I do. And
making it very uber focused on these things. So if you really need deep level self-care and you
really need to focus on self-love and you know increasing your worthiness, increasing that feeling
of worthiness that you have for yourself and being inspired and successful and balanced in your life,
whether that be personal, professional, then like I'm your gal. Like that's what I, so that was what
I came up with. I wanted to streamline. But then what really came out of the whole process,
what I really want to focus on is bringing joy back into my life, bringing fun back into my life.
I can be very serious and I can tend to overwork myself a little bit. That's always been my tendency.
I have the tendency to be kind of stressed and anxious most of the time. And that's why I do the work
that I do. So and I like having fun. I like being silly. I like having that playfulness in my life.
And so I realized since probably 2020 that I've been way too serious and I need to bring more of
that fun playfulness back into my life every single day. And so along with stream lying and simplifying my
business, I want to bring that fun back into my life every single day. And so consciously, intentionally,
I'm going to be focusing on that every day because it's not coming naturally to me. I'm working too
hard. And the less time I work too hard, it didn't go too well. So if I have to be intentional
with my time and focus more of that on fun and being playful, then I'm going to do that.
And so that's my focus of the year. And so I wanted to share with you guys today some of the steps
that I've been taking over the past three or four years or maybe even longer to make it so this
year, I know that I can finally step into spending 100% of my time on the things that are aligned with
my purpose and my passions. And I'm so excited that I get to do that this year. But it was a process
that took me a few years. But if you're if you're going to start something, you might as well start it
now. It's the best time. Like you can't start it yesterday. And why start it tomorrow? Start today.
Start stepping into that today. And I'm going to share with you the process that I kind of go
through every single year. I do this and I've been doing this probably for, yeah, I would say since
2020, I've been doing this. And even before 2020, I had another process, but this exact process that
I've kind of mastered that I love doing every year, this whole thing. I've been doing since 2020.
So let's get into it. How do I start out? So the best way to start is to create space. So get
rid of the old to bring in the new, right? And so the way I do that is I reflect on all the lessons
that I learned in the past year. Like what lessons did I learn? What wins did I have? Like how can I
look at my I look at my failures? And I always talk about how we need to redefine failures. Failure is
just a way to move into success. Like you can't have success without failures. So we need to like
reset the mindset of that failure is bad. Failure is just a part of the process. And so you're looking at
your failures to teach you the lessons that you need to learn in order to expand in order to move
towards your goals and your dreams, right? And so you can't learn the lessons unless you reflect on it.
So we're going to reflect on that. We're going to learn from our lessons our mistakes that we made
in the past year. And we're going to release them and forgive ourselves and forgive others, whatever
we need to do to release this. And then we're going to look at our wins. And for crying out loud,
we're going to celebrate not like so many people, especially women, do not celebrate their wins.
Think about the last time you reached a goal. The probably what happened was you reached that goal
and you were like, that is so cool. And then you were like, all right, what's next? Like you didn't
spend enough time jumping up and down and doing a dance of celebration. We need to celebrate our wins
more. We need to really acknowledge our successes. It's so important. And so going through all those
successes and celebrating the past year, even those little things that we came through and had,
you know, victory with, celebrate all of them. That's how you start. That's how you create the space
in order to bring in the new things. And then the next thing I do is I look at my core values. So I,
at some point, wrote out my core values. And I look at all the different areas of my life, like health,
fitness, career, money, all types of relationships, your home, your spirituality, your community,
your adventure, like all those different areas of your life. And write out your core values in those
areas. What do you want to experience? If everything was perfect, how would that look? And what is your
highest value in that area? What do you want to experience in those areas? And it's about really,
really getting clear on that. Like, like, like, Uber, Uber clear, spending some time to do this. So,
initially, when I did this, it took some time. But now, when I look at it every year, I'd really just
look at it to see if I need to change it or adjust it in any way, because as we change and as we grow,
our core values will also change and grow. So you have to kind of like look at them every year
and see how you want to shift them. All right? So that's the first step. Now, if you need help
writing out those core values, I'm going to share something with you at the end of this podcast.
And there'll be a link in the show notes. So if you want to learn how to do that, I have a quick
easy process to, on how to do that. Or you could go back and maybe try to find some of the past
episodes that I did on that. I definitely, I definitely did a podcast episode on core values.
Now, the next step is the most fun step. And that's dreaming and setting goals. I don't like to,
like, call it goal setting, because I like to dream really, really big, like, big, audacious,
like goals that you might think would be impossible. Like, it's like, put it out there, put it out
into the universe that this is what you want. Don't settle, like, why settle? We only get this one
life that we're living, right? Why settle on some small goal, right? Set something big because you
don't really have to know the how. All you need to know is the first step. And I'll talk more about
that in a second, okay? And then you're going to look at after you write a, write out a goal, a dream,
whatever you want to call it in every area. What do you want to experience in every area this year?
Maybe some things, some of those areas of your life are absolutely perfect. You might want to grow,
you might want to read a few books maybe, but maybe there's not like a big goal or dream in that area,
because maybe you're living your dream in that area, right? So maybe there's a part of your life
that you really have down, like, you're really, you're grooving, you're flowing in that area.
Maybe it's health or fitness. Maybe it's your spirituality, right? Maybe you don't have any big
goals in the area. So look at the areas where you're like, you really want to experience change,
you really want to experience growth and like set big audacious goals in those areas and make
sure they're aligned with your core values, right? You want to make sure you're moving in the right
direction. Like I said, don't worry about the how, all you have to worry about is that first step,
because if you really set this huge audacious goal, right? And you worry about, like, you start
thinking about, you start going into, oh, how am I going to get there? That's impossible. I'm
never going to be able to do that. You know, if you start getting to there, you start moving into
that mindset, what happens? You're frozen. You're not even going to take the first step because
you think it's impossible. So what I want you to do is stop yourself when you start going into that
stress loop. I call it a stress loop because you start talking to yourself in your head and it
goes around in this continuous loop of negativity. And I call my, my person in there that's talking
negative, I call her Debbie Downer, right? And I just tell her to be quiet, don't worry, I'll take
care of it. Okay, thank you. Thank you for your input. Don't worry about Debbie. I'll take care of it.
And to all those people that are named Debbie, I know you're not all downers. That's, that's a Saturday,
Saturday night live character. So I'm aging myself here. So if you know who Debbie Downer is from
Saturday live, then you know what I'm talking about. Okay? So moving forward, right? Don't worry about
every single step. Now, when you like, when you, when you're going on a road trip and you have to set
into your map program or whatever you use, right? So you're setting the GPS, so to speak. You have a
starting point in an endpoint. Do you sit there and worry about every turn that you have to make in
between? And if you do, I'm sorry, because I can, I can relate to that, you know? But do you really
worry about memorizing every single step and knowing every single step? Because if we're being
honest with ourselves, if you look at all those big goals that you've reached before in your life
and you look back in hindsight, could you have ever planned out the crazy steps that you took
to get there? And I'm going to guess that the answer is no. Because when you look back in hindsight,
it's the craziest zigzaggy approach, right? It didn't probably go in the direction that you thought it
would. You reached your goal, but you didn't do it in the way you thought you would do it, right? And
so why try to plan it out when you just really don't know how it's going to happen, right? You're
co-creating with the universe. So just like put the, put the, put the goal, the dream out there into
put it out there to the universe. And then all you have to do is take action, take that first step.
So your only, the only thing that you're going to do right now is write down the goal. And then the
next thing you're going to do is you're going to say, what's my, what's my first step? So as an example,
all right, I'm going to use a very common, near-use, near-use, not-use, if-new-use, kind of goal
dream. And a lot of people always want to get fit, right? Or, you know, lose weight, get fit, be
healthier, whatever it might be, right? Very common, but how many people do it? Not that many people.
It's a little overwhelming sometimes, especially with all the information out there. But if you
could say to yourself, like, you want to feel better, you want to have more energy, so maybe you
want to lose a little bit of weight. What would the first step be? The first step. So for me,
I would focus on food because I love food, right? And so I would focus on eating real food,
taking all the processed food out of my diet. That would be my first step. And until I
achieved that, I wasn't, I'm not going to really move on. Like, I'm not going to take on too many
first steps. I'm not going to start working out. I'm not going to start doing all this other stuff.
I'm going to focus on that one first step. I'm going to master it. I'm going to start cooking. I'm
going to start meal planning. I'm going to start doing all that. I'm focusing on eating real food,
right? And then after I do that step, I'm going to look at it and I'm going to say,
so how did that work out? Maybe I started losing weight, just because I cut out processed food. You're
cutting out a lot of sugar when you cut out processed food, right? You're cutting out a lot of unhealthy
fats when you cut out processed foods. Maybe you lost a little bit of weight. Maybe you,
you know, just accidentally reduced your calories because you're not eating processed food. Who knows?
Right? Maybe you started to feel better and then you were more active and you didn't even notice it.
Right? So ask yourself, how did it work out? And if it worked out, then you're going to say,
okay, what's the next step? If it didn't work out and you're like, okay, okay, I didn't stick to
this. I didn't meal plan. I'm still eating processed foods. Maybe what do I need to adjust? What
do I need to shift? Maybe that step was too big. So maybe I'm just going to focus on
cooking one meal every day that's going to be real whole food. Okay? I'm going to shift a little bit.
I'm going to make the step smaller. One meal a day, real whole food. I'm going to make breakfast,
real whole food. I'm going to cut out all processed food from my breakfast and that's all I'm going
to do. That's the only step. All right? And then I'm going to come back after I've mastered that. I've
done that and then I'm going to ask myself what the next step would be. Right? And so as you have
success, you ask yourself, as you, as you set these, take these little steps that you think are in the
right direction. After you do them, ask yourself, did I move in the right direction? And if not,
how can I shift? And if you did, what's the next step? So after I master the whole food thing,
what might be my next step? I want to be more active. I'm feeling a little better now because
I'm eating real food. I'm eating food that has more nutrition. I have more energy. I just feel
better. You know? I'm regular, whatever. Right? There's going to be all these things that happen
when you start doing that. Right? And it might take a little while because sometimes when you cut out
those processed food that sugar, you might feel worse before you feel better. So give it some time.
If that is your goal, all right? There's going to be, I'm just using that as an example. And then
your next step might be, I'm going to start walking, you know, three times a week. Then start walking
three times a week. Maybe you don't walk at all. Maybe you don't move at all. You don't exercise.
You're going to start walking three times a week. Right? And then you're going to come back
once you've achieved that and see if you're moving in the right direction. And then what's the next step?
Right? And before you know it, can you see how you're making the progress? Can you see how if you,
if you did this like every week, every month, you took a new step? How at the end of the year,
you're going to no matter what, you're going to move forward as long as you keep going, right? And
so that's the next part of this. The next part is how do you stay motivated? So I think the key to
motivation is really going back to setting the dreams and the goals, the big, audacious, exciting
dreams or goals, whatever you want to call them. If they're not exciting, if they're not big,
if they're safe, they might be boring. And so if you're not going to keep that motivation or
inspiration first, if they're not exciting, big dreams or goals, also secondly, if they're not your
dreams or goals, if you're doing it because your family expects you to do this, if you're doing it
because it's acceptable to society, that's an acceptable goal to society, you know, trying to lose weight
or get in shape. If your goal is, oh my god, I'm trying to think of something that's not acceptable
in society. I don't, I can't think of something off the top of my head, but something that's a little,
you know, maybe off, it doesn't necessarily mean for society, but for you, something that's completely
different. Maybe you're an accountant and all of a sudden you're like, my goal is to become
an artist and to start to like incorporate that into my life and sell my work. And your family might be
like, that's crazy, you can't do that. Like you have to, you have this wonderful job as an accountant,
why would you want to be an artist, you know? And so, so maybe you've put that off, maybe you put
off the artistic creative dream because it's not acceptable in society or it's not acceptable in
your family or it's, you know, not acceptable to whatever your friend group, right? And you're
going to get some pushback on it. But what I have to say to you is first, you don't have to give up your,
your, your accounting job to become a painter. First of all, that's the first thing. You don't have
to give something up to start doing something else. You just have to add it into your life in little
bits. Like I said at the beginning of this, I started doing this in 2020. I didn't just say, I'm not
going to do this job anymore. I'm just going to do this job and I'm not going to do anything I
used to do to make money. I'm just going to be destitute while I live in my passion, say, you know what I'm
saying? And so it's about taking those little baby steps forward. But if you're not passionate
about your dream or if it's not your dream, say, say your dream or your goal is to go back to school
and finish your degree, but that's what's acceptable by society. That's what's expected of your
your, of you, of your, from your parents, from your partner, from whoever, or you want to set,
make a good impression for your children, but it's not something you really want to do.
Then it's going to be hard when it starts getting hard when that goal starts the work, you have to
start putting in the work, you're not going to be motivated, right? You're not going to have that
inspiration because it's not your goal. And so you really need to ask yourself the questions
about what do you really want? What really brings you joy? Pay attention to those moments when
you feel when you're doing something and time pass it like, like you feel like there's no time.
It just either a lot of time passes really quick or like you get a lot done in a short period of time,
you're in like a zone, right? You're in the zone. What's the movie? I just watch Soul. It's a Pixar
movie. It's a cartoon, but it's really, it really talks about this and it actually has like a very
creative, made up place called the zone when people are in the zone. I just watched this movie. I love
watching like the Pixar movies that are cartoons that are made for children, but they have like this
really adult message. Soul is one of them. So if you haven't watched that movie, watch that movie.
So it's about learning when you're in your purpose. I feel this way when I'm in my garden,
when I'm gardening. I feel this way when I'm running. I feel this way when I'm creating anything,
creating anything could be artistic. It could be a new program for my business, creation. When I'm in
creation, I'm in flow. I'm not paying attention to anything else. So pay attention to when you're in
those little flowy moments. Another thing to do is to ask yourself, and I talked about this in my
communities and with my clients today, this is like my deep-level self-care, you know, practice
of the week. And it's about asking yourself those questions like, what did you love doing when
you were a little kid before anybody started like telling you what you're supposed to do, what you
should do. What did you just love doing? And think about, you know, whether you do that anymore,
whether there's a part of that or something similar to that in your life right now. And if not why,
right? If not why. Also ask yourself, if you had all the money in the world and there were no
limitations, what would you be doing with your time? That's another, that's such a fun question.
Just journal it out, right? Another fun question is if you could have any job and you didn't have to
worry about like any prerequisites to that job, whether it be like some kind of a college degree or
whatever, like if you could have any job in the world, what would it be? And then ask yourself,
after you ask yourself those three questions and you journal it out, see if there's any parts of
those things in your life now and if not why. So start figuring out what your dreams are, not
other people's, not what's expected of you, not what's accepted by society. What are your dreams?
Because if you want to keep going, if you want to be able to take these little steps and have
these small successes and keep that momentum going forward, you have to be passionate about it,
you have, it has to be your dream. You have to know what your why is. Why am I doing this? Because it
makes me happy, because it brings me joy, because it brings me freedom, because it puts me in the
flow, it puts me in the zone, right? Why am I doing this? Okay, that's the big question.
So don't leave everything up to like up in the air, like don't leave your next year up in the air,
like plan it, plan it, set the GPS, nowhere your starting point is, nowhere you want to go.
And then just know the first step. Don't leave it all up to whoever, like just chance, set the GPS.
Now you can't control every step, right? You can't control everything, but you could, you could point
yourself in the right direction, right? And you can take the steps needed to move in that direction.
All right. Now I every year I used to and I'm probably going to do this in the future. I just
didn't do it this year. Between Christmas and New Year's, I do my inspire master class where I walk
you through this. There's a workbook, this meditation, there's everything. I didn't do it this year. I
did it for myself, because I do it for my, that's, that's what this whole program is, what I just
kind of shared with you. So you could just follow the steps that I talked about on this podcast, or
I'm doing a special from now until Sunday, where I'm offering my inspire master class, because I
recorded it last year. So you'll get the master class. I think it's like a three day master class.
There's a workbook and there's I think two meditations that help you through the whole process.
And there's like a releasing meditation to help you let go of the old. And then there's a dreaming
big meditation to help you really step into those big dreams. And so if you want that, I'm going to
be offering a coupon for 50% off. So if you want to do the inspire master class, I'm going to put
the link in the show notes. Grab it now at 50% off. So I believe full price is $111. So I'll give you
the coupon is going to be inspire 24, but I'll put all that information in the show notes. It's only
going to be good until Sunday, January 7th. So grab it now and then you could use it every single year,
right? Or you could do it live with me if you feel like it next year. I would love for you to be able
to have a plan and to be able to work through this. Now if you're not a planner, then this probably
isn't for you. I am such a planner. I don't just do this inspire program. I do some other programs that
I've bought from other coaches that I love to do. I just love that whole process. Like I said earlier,
I love that space between Christmas and New Year's where you get to like really dream big,
get inspired and just think about the possibilities and the opportunities that are going to come into your
life. And I love the fact that I have some control over the creation of that just by setting intentions.
So be sure to set your intentions for the New Year, okay? Whether you step into the inspire masterclass
or not, you could just follow the steps that I went through in this podcast. Also if you follow the
blog, which I renamed the Soulline Self-Care VIP News, sorry. If you follow the blog, I wrote the
blog all about that too. So you could read that just by going to my website. You could check it out.
That link will be in the show notes too. And I once again want to wish everybody a happy New Year.
Get inspired, think about all the opportunities, all the possibilities that are coming to you in this
year. I love you and I will see you next week. Bye!