Why Self-Care Is NOT Selfish

Why Self-Care Is NOT Selfish

One of the things that I see day after day in my life and business is professional, driven women who feel guilty giving themselves any self-care at all even at substandard levels.

I believe this stems from the way the majority of us are raised from birth to always care for and make someone else happy before ourselves. We are expected to take the role of caregiver even if we work full-time, and or have a business. Not to mention, we are sometimes expected to take the brunt of the household chores as well. 

This my friend is a heavy load to take on and is NOT sustainable without repercussions on our health. 

The big part of the problem is convincing these amazing, smart, capable, and powerful women that they need to practice self-care daily and it is NOT selfish. 

They need to go against society's unreasonable and might I say bullshit expectations of us to do everything, be everything, and look good doing it. 

They need to understand that self-care is not selfish and today I’m going to give you as many reasons as I can why it’s not and how it benefits everyone.

• When you take care of yourself at a high level you feel good about yourself. When you feel good, the people around you will also feel good. A ripple effect that will continue to move through all the people in your life.
• When you practice self-care, you get sick less. This allows you to continue to work, play, and help care for others.
• When you care for your stress levels you will help avoid many health issues, high blood pressure, autoimmune disease, anxiety and depression, heart disease, and many many more. 
• When you practice self-care you can put your best self into the world. That might mean you can be a better partner, friend, daughter, sister, mother, business owner, or employee, whatever you spend your time doing, it will be done better if you care for yourself first. 
• When you eat well and exercise you will feel better. You will also have fewer visits to the doctor, and get sick less.
• Getting enough sleep will also have the same effect on your health and energy.
• Setting and maintaining healthy personal boundaries will help have more aligned happy relationships. This keeps everyone in your life happy. They know what to expect and they know how you expect to be treated. Everyone is better off when there are clear boundaries.
• When you practice self-care the people around you can learn that this is also possible for them. You are a mentor and a positive example to the people around you.
• When we learn how to destress and handle our strong emotions properly we can respond to situations rather than react. This helps us have respectful positive relationships and sets an example for our friends, family, and children.
• When we make it a priority to love ourselves and tune into our feelings and intuition. We can make better-informed decisions and respect the way we spend our time and who we spend our time with. In turn, the people around can get to know your authentic self and have a stronger more authentic connection and experience with you. I look at this as not wasting your time or anyone else's.

When we take the time and know the importance of daily self-care we put the best possible version, the most honest version of ourselves into the world. 

We put our best foot forward which to me is the only way to put ourselves into the world. This does not mean we need to be perfect. It just means for us to be ourselves and care for that self at the highest level we can. This is really your only true job in this world. 

I don't know about you. but this is the example I want to lead my life with and show my children.

We set an example for others to follow. We show them that this is how good it can be and should be.

We teach others how we want to be treated.

We can make the world a better place by caring for ourselves.

This is why self-care is NOT selfish. 

So what is the next step?

Take some time today to stop for a moment and be present with yourself. Then, ask yourself, What do I need right now? Then make sure you listen and figure out how to give yourself that thing. 

This is the first step.

I’ll keep sharing with you more ways you can do this on a daily basis!

Remember to add deep-level self-care into your life daily.

Until next time, sending extra love and care your way.

Xo, T