Have you ever caught yourself saying things like,
I'm too old for that or I'm too young for that?
Or I've never been good at math
or I'm just so stupid or anything along those lines.
Well, today's self-care practice of the week
is all about releasing these limiting beliefs,
harmful thoughts, any type of patterns that we have
and leaving them behind to create space
for new healthier thoughts, beliefs and patterns.
Let's get into it.
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You're listening to the Soul Aligned Self-Care Podcast.
I'm your host, Tina Stinson, and I had a stroke
at the age of 39 from stress and burnout that shook my world.
Now I'm laying it all out, the deep-level self-care practices
and mindset shifts that I needed that kept me healthy,
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Let's get into it.
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Hey guys, welcome back to the Soul Aligned Self-Care Podcast.
I am talking all about limiting beliefs,
releasing those limiting beliefs today's
for the weekly self-care practice.
When you tune in for the weekly self-care practice,
it's going to be a quick episode, 15 minutes tops,
and I'll be doing these every Monday.
If you want an easy to do self-care practice for yourself
every week, then tune in, subscribe to the podcast,
make sure that you don't miss anything.
Let's get into it.
Today is all about releasing.
I think it was kind of cool because I do a card poll
for the Soul Aligned Self-Care Insiders community,
and the card that I pulled was the release card.
Today is the full moon.
It's an eclipse full moon, so it's all about release.
I kind of love how aligned this all is.
I decided to talk about that and share with you
a way you could start the process of releasing
any limiting beliefs, harmful thoughts,
anything that's out of alignment with yourself.
I wanted to get into this and share.
It's like a three-step process that I use.
The first step that I will share with you is about awareness.
It's about paying attention to the way
that you talk to yourself in your head, even out loud.
It's about becoming aware of when you say things to yourself,
something that's very common.
Oh my God, I can't believe I did that.
I'm so stupid.
Like I said earlier in the intro, like, oh my God,
I'm way too old for that.
Or I'm too old to wear something like that.
Or I'm too young to do that.
Like all those little things that we say so quickly
and so like almost subconsciously, we don't even notice it.
We just say it so often.
Or maybe it's something that's been programmed into you
where you say things like, oh, I've never been good at math.
I've heard so many people say that.
You know, so the first step is awareness.
That's step number one.
Just being aware of these thoughts happening
because we do it so subconsciously.
So it's about catching yourself in the moment,
saying the thing or thinking the thing
or whatever it is and becoming aware of it.
So that's step number one.
Now step number two is asking yourself the question,
is this absolutely true?
You're gonna ask yourself.
So let's go back to the example of, oh my God,
I can't believe I did that.
I'm so stupid.
So is that true?
I legitimately said this to myself the other day
when I was taking a walk, we had an ice storm up here, right?
And there's an ice for a while and then it snowed
and then an ice on top of that.
So it's very messy, but it looks absolutely beautiful.
And if you don't follow me on Instagram,
you should follow me over there.
Tina Stinson Coach, I've been posting pictures of the ice storm.
And it's just really cool.
It's really pretty.
And hopefully it's gonna melt today
'cause it's supposed to go up to 40.
But anyway, we have this little bridge
that goes over a creek on our property
and I was walking across the bridge
and I was paying so much attention to my feet
'cause I didn't want to slip off the bridge
that I walked into a branch that was covered with ice.
And then when I did that, all the snow and the ice
from the branches above, like this fell on top of me.
It was like something from a sitcom, right?
And I said, oh my God, I'm so stupid.
I can't believe I did that.
And then what I always say to myself when I catch myself
is I'm like, cancel clear delete.
I think I learned that from my friend Christine shout out
to my friend Christine.
Cancel clear delete.
And it's just like the perfect thing.
Or you could just say, I used to say delete delete delete
or cancel cancel cancel whatever.
I used to use like a one word thing,
but I love cancel clear delete 'cause I'm like, no.
And then, you know, reframe it, right?
So the second step is, you know, is this necessarily true?
And I'm gonna say, no, I'm not stupid.
I know I'm not stupid.
I do so many smart things, okay?
So it's not true.
So the second step is that.
Like so say, it's something more complicated.
Like you're afraid to do something and you're like,
maybe you're the type of person
who doesn't like a lot of techy things.
And you're like, oh my God, I'm too old for all that stuff.
I can't, I'm too old to learn all that stuff.
I don't want to learn that stuff.
Right, is that necessarily true?
Are there older people that do techy stuff?
Yes, obviously.
So it's not true.
You're not too old to learn techy stuff.
You just don't want to, right?
So it's about proving it wrong,
proving the limiting belief or the thought or the action
or whatever, proving it wrong.
So even if you could probably come up
with 10 different reasons why it's not true, right?
So do that.
Like in your head, just like in that moment,
oh my God, cancel clear delete.
That is obviously not true.
I'm a very intelligent person.
Okay, what can be a better phrase?
So step number three is what can be a better phrase.
Right, so maybe I could have said, oh my God,
I can't believe I did that.
It was so silly, right?
You know, so it's, it's just changes the whole vibration
of the comment and the way you feel about yourself
and it's about practicing self-love.
Now this is obviously a very, very simple example,
but it's something that a lot of us say all the time.
Oh my God, I'm so stupid, right?
We say that all the time.
Cancel clear delete.
I don't want my subconscious mind to think
that I keep saying that to myself over and over again
while I'm talking on the podcast.
So it's about awareness first,
which I think out of all the steps is the hardest step
because we're so accustomed to doing this for ourselves.
But I wanna share something with you.
If you cannot show this love to yourself, right?
The same love that you would show to a friend or a family member,
you would never call anyone in your life stupid, right?
You wouldn't call your kids stupid,
you wouldn't call your friends, your partner,
you wouldn't call anyone stupid.
If you can't show that same love to yourself,
then it's gonna be hard for you
to expand the relationships you have.
Whatever love, how deep that love is for yourself,
is how deep you can go in your relationships
with other people.
And I think that taking this step
and starting to become aware of the different ways
we talk to ourselves, treat ourselves,
the beliefs that we have about ourselves,
is such a powerful act of self love that serves us.
And so, like, it serves us not only in so many ways,
but it serves us forever.
It's not something that just serves us in that moment, okay?
The more connected, the more deeper the love we have for ourselves,
the better we experience life.
And so, doing this, I don't like to call it work
because I mean, it is essentially work
because it's not easy to do, I guess.
We would all label work as something that's not easy to do.
But the more you do this,
the more you start bringing your awareness
to these things, the way you're talking to yourself
and treating yourself,
the easier it will get.
Like, the more you do it, the more practice you are,
the more you're gonna notice it.
And this is absolutely true.
The more you notice it, the more you can handle these situations,
nip them in the bud and start reprogramming your subconscious mind
to focus more on the positive things
and the things that you love about yourself.
And so, this week's self-care practice
is to become aware of the thoughts, the words we're using,
our belief systems, just start to bring awareness into that.
And if you want to supercharge your weekly self-care,
then you're going to do the other two steps.
You're gonna ask yourself, is that necessarily true?
And then you're gonna reframe either the thought,
the action or the words that you're using.
So, those are the three steps.
So, I hope that this was very helpful to you.
And I hope that you enjoy today's full moon.
So, if you're into practicing anything,
you know, working with the moon
over on this SoulAlign self-care insiders group,
yes, we have a group.
We have a community for this podcast.
It's called the SoulAlign self-care insiders.
I will put the link in the show notes
so that you could join us over there.
Now, you could just follow along for free
or you could join us.
And I offer full moon and new moon journaling sessions.
I do meditations twice a week
that you guys get to keep and listen over and over again.
You get a self-care practice every week,
just like I do on here.
There's all kinds of stuff that I release over there
and try to connect with you as a community
and expand all your self-care practices
that you want to start doing and adding into your life.
So, the link will be in the show notes for that.
And I am just so excited about you doing this work.
But if you have any questions,
you could go follow me over there, join the group
and you could ask questions and talk with me over there.
I would love to have you.
Okay, guys, happy self-care practice.
Talk to you soon, bye.
