I truly believe that one of our most valuable resources is our time.
And I feel like the older I get, the more this is obvious.
Also, time freedom can also be looked at as similar things,
but those are our most valuable resources.
So what have I told you that you can create more time in your life, more space?
This week's topic I talked about in my communities was creating peace for yourself
and defining what that means for you.
And I got into the conversation about decluttering, decluttering the mind,
the space, and the processes.
Now, when I say decluttering, a lot of people think that they're going to go into
their kitchen, junk drawer, and declutter that.
And yes, that is a small part of it.
But decluttering can be so much more, and it's a process that I go through
with some of my private clients where I teach them to create more space in their mind,
in their actual physical environment, and in the processes that they go through every day.
And I decided, I haven't talked about this for a long time on the podcast,
and I looked back and saw that some of the episodes that I did were in the beginning
when I first started the podcast.
So today, I'm going to get into talking about how you can start to declutter the mind,
your space, and your processes to create more space, flow, and time in your life.
And when you do this for yourself, you reduce stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and burn out.
Let's get into it.
You're listening to the Soul Aligned Self-Care Podcast.
I'm your host, Tina Stinson, and I had a stroke at the age of 39 from stress
and burn out that shook my world.
Now I'm laying it all out, the deep-level self-care practices and mindset shifts that
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Hey guys, welcome back to the Soul Aligned Self-Care Podcast.
I am coming to you from sunny warm, well, not too sunny today, but definitely warmer.
Charlotte North Carolina.
I'll be headed back to the Catskills in New York on Thursday.
I'm looking forward to seeing the leaves changing and enjoying one of my most favorite months
in New York, October.
I am so excited to be doing this podcast.
I am sitting in a room right now with four dogs.
I am babysitting my grandchildren, so to speak, my grand-dogs.
If there's any noise, you guys will know exactly what that is, but they're all sleeping
very, very contently right now.
I'm going to do this podcast for you.
As I said, I'm going to be talking about decluttering today.
Now I know a lot of people when you say decluttering, they think, "Okay, I'm going to go declutter,
my junk drawer, and my kitchen, maybe their closet, maybe their basement."
Yes, that is definitely part of it.
This is about clearing your energy space and all of those things, physical, mental, and
the way you do things in your life clutter up the space, all the energy in your space.
When you clear that space, you create flow.
You don't just create flow, but you create more time for yourself because the easier things
are and the more of a flow that you're living in in your life, the more time you have.
When you do this decluttering, one of the side effects is creating more time for yourself.
I love that it does that.
Usually when I do a podcast on decluttering, I do three separate podcasts, one on decluttering
the mind, one on the space, and one on the processes because it's a lot.
It's a lot of stuff.
But I'm going to kind of go through them quickly so that if you wanted to get started, you
could.
If you wanted to go deeper into this work, I do this in my private one-on-one, but I also
do this in my sole align self-care intensive, which is my online program.
I have a whole module on decluttering.
You can go deeper into it if you want to, and I'll put the links to those things in the
show notes so that if you wanted to go deeper, you could.
Let's get into it.
Decluttering the mind.
What do I mean by that?
We have a lot going through our minds.
When you go into, if you suffer from stress, anxiety, a lot of what's going on is you have
these loops going on your head.
I'm going to use dry cleaning to show you an example of that because I feel like a lot of
us can relate to that where we've had a shirt, even if you don't go to the dry cleaner regularly.
I don't even know the last time I've been to the dry cleaner, but when I used to work in
real estate, I went to the dry cleaner a lot.
This would happen to me so often that I would forget the clothes that I had where I would
put them in a bag and put them in my car and I would want to go to the dry cleaner and
just drop them off and they would sit in the back of my car somewhere in this bag forever
to the point where when I found it, it was like I went shopping and got a new outfit.
We all have kind of been there and this can also, you could look at this also as scheduling
a doctor's appointment or all those things that we put off.
They loop in our heads and so an example of this would be, "Okay, I put the dry cleaning
in the bag, I bring it out to the car and in my mind," or even maybe on a list somewhere,
I say to myself, "I'm going to bring this to the dry cleaner today before I go to work."
Then you are driving to work and maybe you get a phone call and you're distracted or maybe
you're listening to a podcast and you're distracted and you get to the work and you're
work and you're like, "Oh my goodness, I forgot to drop the dry cleaning off."
You're like, "Oh, no problem, I'll just go at lunchtime."
It's still in your head.
You haven't released that duty yet, so to speak, and it's in your head and it's looping
because you don't want to forget.
It's in your head, it's taking up space and it's taking up energy, right?
You might even be starting to beat yourself up a little bit because you've got and you
don't want to waste your lunch hour going to the dry cleaner.
Now you're like, "Oh, this sucks, I don't want to go to the dry cleaning during lunch.
I was going to go out with someone so for lunch and now I'm going to do this."
Lunch gets closer and one of your friends at work or something or maybe someone outside
of work needs to talk to you about something or whatever and they want to go out to lunch
and you're like, "Okay, I can go out to lunch."
But I'm going to have to bring the dry cleaning on my way home from work, which stinks because
I just want to go home, I'll be tired, but I want to spend some time with this person,
so I'm going to go have lunch with them.
It's still looping in your head and now you're starting to beat yourself up a little bit
more because you feel like you can't get anything done, you can't get even the simplest
task going to the dry cleaner done.
You have lunch, you go back to work, you feel a little discombobulated because you don't
always take a long lunch.
I know this for a fact that people don't take their lunch because every person I work with
doesn't take their lunch and I don't understand that.
But I'm just going to say, when they do take their lunch, sometimes they feel a little
bit guilty, so that's weighing on you.
So all this stuff is like weighing on you and it's looping in your head and it's sucking
the energy from your body.
Your brain takes a lot of energy to run.
I can't remember the exact percentage, maybe I should have looked it up before I did
this podcast.
Your brain uses a lot of energy and when you have all these things in your brain, it's taking
up a lot of space and energy.
So now you have to remember to bring that to the dry cleaner, your outfit to the dry cleaner
on the way home.
You might get home a little bit late, you might start dinner late, you're kind of a little
not, you know, not pissed off, but like upset about it.
You just want to go home and relax.
So you're thinking about that and you leave and you're driving home and you just completely
forgot.
Like if you're like me, I forget to do stuff like that all the time.
You get home as soon as you, you know, get out of your car and you close your door, you're
like, oh my god, I can't believe I forgot and you look at it and you're like, maybe I should
go now, but then you're like, no, I'm so tired, I just want to go inside.
So you're like, I'll just bring it in the morning, right?
So there it is, sitting in your car and looping in your brain still and it's going to be looping
tonight when you go to bed, you're going to like think about it, you might add it.
Like if you're a list person like me, you might add it to your list for the next day.
So I think you get my point though.
And the tri-cleaning isn't the only thing we have in our head, you know, say we have to make
an appointment for our mammogram, something we never really want to do because it's like
a torture device and I can't believe they haven't invented something better yet.
Actually they have, but I don't think anybody uses it.
Getting off topic here.
What else do we not want to do?
Or get our teeth cleaned, scheduling that?
Maybe calling the bank about that charge that you saw, you didn't know what it was.
There's so many things, right?
And they're all looping our head all at once.
So when I talk about decluttering the brain, I talk about either there's two different ways,
there's a lot of different ways to do this, but I'm going to share two with you today.
The first thing is doing a mind dump at the end of the day or first thing in the morning.
And I like doing it at the end of the day, but I've definitely had some clients that I've
worked with that say doing the mind dump at the end of the day before bed stresses them
out a little bit and amps them up before bed.
So you're going to just have to test it out for yourself.
Now a lot of you may have heard of a mind dump before.
It's really just about taking everything that's going on in your mind and your head and
putting it down on paper.
It does not have to be legible, it does not have to be grammatically correct, it doesn't
have to be something that you're going to reread, you could burn it afterwards if you want,
but it's about getting everything out, all the things you have to do, all the things you
didn't do, all the things that made you angry today, all the things that made you happy,
all everything, just let it out.
That's why you might want to throw it in the fireplace and burn it afterwards or whatever,
but if you're going to burn it, burn it carefully.
So that's a mind dump and you could do that in the morning too.
I like doing it before bed because it helps a lot of people sleep better because a lot of
people that go to sleep that have trouble falling asleep is because their mind is very busy.
So this can help with the busyness.
Now always say that if you're going to do a mind dump at night after you do it, then do
a little bit of gratitude.
So think about what is one thing today that I'm really grateful for.
And it's nice to say today because a lot of us go to things we're grateful for, our
family, our kids, our dogs, or whatever, our health.
But thinking about one thing from that day really kind of makes you think about it and
get you into that feeling of gratitude.
And going into a sleep in a state of gratitude is I think one of the best ways to fall asleep.
So you can get out, get the mind dump, clear the brain, create that space, and then fill
it with a little bit of gratitude and then go to sleep.
But you could also do it in the morning if you feel like it amps you up.
So another thing is, and people don't like this as much, but do the thing.
So a lot of people call it eat the frog.
So when you have something to do, you know, just do it right in that moment because dwelling
on it and scheduling it at another time takes longer.
So as an example, the mammogram appointment, the dentist appointment, calling the bank
about the charge as soon as that pops into your head, just do it in that moment.
It's very, very likely that it's only going to take five or ten minutes excluding the bank
call because calling a bank can be excruciating.
And I understand why no one wants to do that anymore.
But just do it, okay?
There's two ways to do this.
Do it right in the moment, but if you're in a situation where you're at work and you can't,
you know, you can't call the bank or you can't make those appointments, then I have this
process I call creating a shit list.
And it's about all those little things that you have to do that you don't feel like doing
right in that moment or you can't do right in that moment, you create this list.
Then I call it the shit list because it's nothing you want to do.
And then once a week, you commit to taking, putting aside at time, where you're going to
do everything on this list.
And I guarantee it's going to take you half the amount of time you think it well, but you
have to make the commitment to do it.
So say, like your slowest day is Friday or maybe you work from home one day and you can do
it.
Like whatever, wherever you could squeeze in, put aside an hour, it's not going to take
that long.
And then if it takes you 20 minutes to do all of your work that you have on your shit list,
then you have the rest of that time to do something pleasant and fun.
But I guarantee you, it's not going to take you that much time.
What this does is it gets it out of your head and onto the paper.
And when you know that you're going to follow through and you can trust yourself to do this
once a week to handle everything on your shit list, you know you don't have to worry about
it anymore.
So it's not looping in your head.
Okay.
So those are two different ways.
I started this work of decluttering my mind by creating this list for myself and doing it
once a week and really, really showing up for myself.
It's about showing up for yourself and knowing you can count on yourself.
And I feel like you can't show it for anyone else until you can show it for yourself.
So this is a really good test to like really be able to trust yourself that you know you're
going to do this because it's not going to work if you can't follow through because putting
on the list isn't going to make you feel better if you know you're not going to do it.
So only going to make you feel better if you know you're going to handle it in that time
and space if that makes sense.
So I started out this way but then I realized that it's so much easier just to do it right
in that moment.
As soon as I think, oh my god, I have to schedule a dental cleaning.
Just pick up the phone and do it.
It's going to take, it's going to be so quick.
A lot of times you can do those things online now too.
So just do it online.
It takes, it's so quick.
So whatever you can do, do it, make it happen and then it's gone forever.
It's out of your head.
Now one last thing about decluttering the mind that I want to talk about is something
that weighs on us a lot.
Sometimes is any type of disruption in a relationship.
So several of them are really easy to handle and some of them aren't and when we don't
handle those easy ones, that's when they turn into the hard ones.
So an example of an easy disruption in a relationship could be like, oh my friend texted me a week
ago and I meant to respond but I didn't.
Now I feel ridiculous responding and I feel bad and I feel like I hurt their feelings
and you just like prolonging the conversation because you feel awful.
Just call the person, admit that you looked at it, you meant to respond, we've all done
that.
So anyone who wouldn't understand that isn't really human because we've all done that.
We've definitely looked at text messages.
Sometimes you even respond and then you don't hit send or you're like, oh, I have to respond
to that but you don't do it right away because maybe you need some more information or you
don't have the exact time to text it out or you're with another person and you don't want
to be on your phone, whatever it might be.
Those little things build and weigh on our minds.
They fill our minds but constantly thinking about them.
It's the same thing you have that that loop in your head along with the dry cleaning
loop, the dental appointment loop, all the things you got to do, they're all looping in your
head, sucking your energy and your time.
When you losing your energy, you don't feel good.
When you're losing your energy and you're spending your brain is spending all this time on
these loops, it adds stress, anxiety, overwhelm.
All these little things build up in your energy system in your body and it's good to just
like release them and get rid of them.
So handling those small little relationship loops that you have, it could be a business
relationship, it could be anything, just handle it.
Just handle those difficult situations because it's easier to do it than to let it loop
inside of your body, sucking your energy away.
So those are some of the things that you could do to declutter the mind.
There's so many different ways that you can go deeper and deeper on this and I love
doing this work with my clients because it's almost like we know what we're supposed to
do, just like we know we're supposed to work out and we know we're supposed to eat healthy
but we don't do it all the time.
And pushing ourselves to do those things and getting it done feels so, so good.
Now I can't even begin to say that I know anything about what it feels like to have ADHD
or anything like that where it's hard to get things done.
So I can't really offer any clever, you know, processes that you can go through besides
working with somebody alongside and taking these small steps to help you.
I have some friends who do this type of work and having a support system and a person that
could walk alongside of them and help them get this stuff done to help declutter the mind
is what seems to work.
But as I said, I am not an expert and I don't have personal experience with this.
Okay, moving on to decluttering the space which is everyone's favorite.
So we all know how good it feels to declutter our space, right?
It feels so good.
That's why we do it, you know?
So it feels equally as good to declutter the mind and to declutter your processes.
I just want to add that.
It feels so good getting this done.
And the reason it feels so good is because you're clearing your energy space.
It's not just the actual space, it's the energy in that space.
Okay?
And one of the things I do after I go through all of these decluttering processes with my
clients is I encourage them to add beauty back in and comfort.
You know, so like when you clear the space, you clear all the clutter out of the space but
how can you make it more beautiful to you?
Can you add a plant?
Sorry.
Can you add a pop of color somewhere your favorite color?
Like what are the pictures on your walls?
Did they vibe with you?
You know, maybe buy some like art from somebody that really vibes with you and start putting
that on your walls.
Add things, only add things to your space if they create happiness, pleasure, peace, whatever
comfort.
That's what you add back into your space.
Okay?
So, without having nothing and having it being very sterile, it's about removing the clutter
so you have an energy flow and then putting the things in that space, not too much obviously,
but putting the things in that space that make you so happy and make you feel good and comfortable.
So decluttering, obviously, we all know how to do this but one of my biggest things I could
say, the advice that I have, we all kind of remember that book.
I'm about decluttering, you know, and I can't forget, I can't remember the name of the book.
But I think you know what I'm talking about.
It's the art of, oh my God, it's going to drive me crazy.
Let me see if I could look it up, you know, in my book, because I have this book and I read
this book.
So let me see if I could look it up here for you so that I can speak about it.
I'm looking it up as we speak right now.
Okay.
I don't see it.
Oh my God.
Oh my goodness.
I know I have this book.
Okay, I'm not going to spend too much time on here because I don't want to waste your time.
But in the book, she declutters everything all at once and I think it's a little overwhelming
and I'm all about taking baby steps, small steps.
And so when I do this decluttering work with my clients, I start with the smallest steps.
I'm talking about decluttering your pocket book, maybe even starting with your wallet.
So a lot of energy specialists talk about decluttering your wallet so there's more space
for more money to come in.
So think of it as a positive thing for your wallet too.
So taking out old receipts, maybe old cards, maybe old business cards that you're not going
to use anymore.
I'm just getting rid of all that candy wrappers.
Go through your pocket book, make it beautiful, make it lovely, like buy a new wallet if you
want to, whatever.
But do one space like that at a time.
And usually what I do is I come up with a list with my client, so I'm like, okay, we could
do the pocket book, we could do the wallet, we could do the center console in your car, we
could do the medicine cabinet in your bathroom.
You could do one drawer in your dress or one drawer in your desk at a time.
Just about taking these small steps and having these little wins and feeling how good it feels.
And over time, everything is going to just feel better and better and the energy is going
to clear.
And when you have this space all organized and neat and looking very comfortable and pretty,
it takes less time to do things.
When everything is in its place, you don't have to look for anything.
You know where everything is.
So say you're going to declutter your closet.
And then you're going to maybe organize your closet by like work clothes, weekend clothes
or some people do it by color.
So everybody has a different thing that works for them.
Once that closet is organized and your shoes are organized, think about how less time it
would take you to get an output ready for the next day, right?
How like you'll know where everything is.
Get rid of the things that you never wear anymore and only have the things that you need.
Okay, give it a goodwill, sell it if you can sell it, whatever you want to do with it.
But just get rid of it and just create that space.
You know, when we create space, we do create space for new things to come into our life.
But we also create space for that flow.
And when we have flow, we have more time.
We're spending less time working through the clutter of our life, the clutter in our heads
and the clutter in the processes that we do.
So my biggest advice when it comes to decluttering your space is to do little bits at a time.
Now I want to add some spaces that we don't always think of that can be so healing.
And I want to talk about that healing process and share a few personal stories about when
I cleared some space for myself.
So a space that some people don't think of is maybe the contacts of your phone.
And I use this as an example because I used to sell real estate.
And when I sold real estate, if somebody called, say I had a, I had a house listed and someone
called on that house and talked to me and said they were interested about it, I would automatically
create a contact for that person on my phone and I would say, okay, Shannon called on IV
road.
So that when she called again, I could answer the phone and say, hey, Shannon, how are you?
Can I help you with anything?
And it just makes people feel more comfortable and they think, you know, they think you remember
them.
Sometimes I did remember them.
Sometimes I didn't, but I had them in my phone.
And it was just a really good process to make people comfortable when you're working in
a sales position like that.
And so the contacts on my phone were ridiculous.
They were absolutely ridiculous.
I also had all the contacts for all the people I worked for in, with in that field, like
other real estate agents, attorneys, mortgage brokers, like just so many people, home inspectors.
And I retired in 2018.
And so I decided to just delete all of them.
And I did.
I deleted pretty much all of them.
And it created, not only did it feel good to not have that in my phone and not have to
look at that on a day-to-day basis.
I didn't really like selling real estate.
It wasn't exactly a positive thing for me to see those things, but it also created space
for the new.
I was starting a new business and it created that space for that.
It was almost like my commitment was full after I started creating that space for my new
business.
I completely let go of the old business and I was stepping into the new.
So creating that space is so important.
And so look through your phone contacts.
What don't you need?
What can you clear out of there?
Also, another thing I went through, all the folders that I had in my email, like all the
folders I had, now I'm legally required to keep those for three years, all the information
on the properties that I worked with.
But after the three years, I just deleted all of them.
And once again, it created that space for my new business.
It was like I was committing fully to myself.
And the last story I'm going to share is really kind of interesting and funny.
There's a couple and it has to do with, so I was married for quite a while.
I think I was with him for, I don't know, 20 somewhat years total between dating and marriage.
And we got divorced.
And he didn't want any of the furniture.
And so I kept all the furniture.
I had three kids.
And the furniture we had was really high quality furniture.
I was like, why would I get rid of that, right?
And I kept that furniture for a long time and it held up and it was beautiful.
And when my kids graduated high school and we're going to college, I decided that I was going
to move from the area and just sell everything.
It wasn't worth moving that furniture.
It was older at this point.
Some of it was, you know, kind of shot like the couches and stuff like that.
And so I decided to get rid of everything.
And can I just tell you, I wish I did that the second I got divorced.
You know, so like my ex-husband was on to something because he didn't bring that energy
from that furniture into his new life, but I did.
I had all those memories, all the energy.
And it wasn't exactly like good energy.
So, you know, so getting rid of that was so cleansing and it just created space for my new
life.
And I wish I had done it sooner.
And when that happened, I decided to get rid of everything from not just my ex-husband,
but also any guys that I dated that I didn't end up staying with.
And right now to like socks that a boyfriend gave me once, I was just like, "Grr, get rid
of everything."
Now, I didn't get rid of things that were important to the kids like pictures and stuff
like that.
I would never do that.
But like physical things that didn't really have much meaning to them, I just got rid
of everything and it was so cleansing.
So I highly recommend it's an energy thing and I'm telling you, you'll feel the release
of the energy and it creates space for new wonderful things to come into your life.
Another decluttering process that I did unknowingly that was very healing was blocking everybody
from his side of the family on like Facebook.
Now, I'm not really on Facebook anymore.
I deleted my profile completely, but then reopened another one because I'm doing my yoga
and need your certification and there's a group on there that I wanted to be a part of,
but I will be canceling it again.
I don't like working with Facebook, but when I was on Facebook, I was still seeing like
all the family.
And we were like my daughter, especially my older daughter, was very close to his side of
the family.
And it wasn't exactly the way they handled the divorce, wasn't exactly positive.
And so seeing them was a very negative energy for myself.
And when my children's grandparents died and they were like planning, you know, services
and stuff like that, we did get in an argument with them and I ended up just blocking all of
them and then after I did it, it was the same thing as the furniture.
It was like this release.
I don't have to see that anymore.
I don't need to see that.
I don't talk to these people anymore.
Why do I need to see that?
So when I work with people now, I'm like, just block them and it is hard to do sometimes,
but it's so, the energy shift is so amazing.
I highly recommend.
So decluttering those spaces, social media, excuse me, let me just take a sip.
Social media space is, so some people have a problem blocking people that they really care
about.
I always say, so you might have this best friend and you're really good friends with them,
but for some reason, their social media account just gives you like bad vibes.
You don't like it.
You don't have to like unfriend them.
You could just like block them, you know?
They don't necessarily get notified.
You don't have to see it.
You don't want to, you just want to opt out of seeing their posts because it doesn't feel
good.
So pay attention to way social media makes you feel and kind of create, that's what, I mean,
that's what your social media feed should be.
It should be a positive experience for you.
So create, like use the algorithm to help you.
So like when I would get on the wrong side of the algorithm on TikTok, all I would do
is watch, you know, dog videos, gardening videos, art videos, and I'm trying to think what
else.
That's probably it.
Maybe like cooking videos and anything else I would scroll like right past and all the
other ones that I wanted, I would just like like, like, like, like, like, and, you know, engage.
And then instantly my algorithm would change.
That's what you have the power to change.
So like pay attention to how people make you feel and if they don't make you feel good,
stop following them.
Sorry about that noise.
I'm in a city right now, not in the middle of the country on the top of the mountain.
Okay.
So as you could see decluttering your space can go really, really deep.
There's so many things that you could do to help declutter your space.
Now when I say get rid of things and clear energy, don't do this if it's going to feel
like bad later.
Like, for example, I did not get rid of my wedding band or my engagement ring.
I gave that to my children because also like little like air looms, as long as you clear
the energy and do a little sage, you know, I don't think it's helpful to do anything that
might make your your children feel bad or anything like that.
But clearing like, you know, getting rid of that furniture and clearing out my contacts
and, you know, choosing who I expose myself to on social media and my email.
Okay.
Cleaning out your email unsubscribing from things that don't make you feel good.
So like, maybe you like the person, you know, but you don't like the emails.
Maybe they send too many emails unsubscribed.
It doesn't mean you don't like them.
It doesn't mean you're hurting them.
I don't get hurt when people unsubscribed for my list.
I get it.
Sometimes you just need less, just less of everything, right?
So clean it out.
I don't want you guys to unsubscribe for my list, obviously, but I understand it, you know,
I totally get it and respect it.
All right.
We're going to move on.
I could talk about decluttering space forever, but my throat is getting scratchy.
So I'm going to move on to one of the most, I don't know.
I don't want to want to call it difficult, but I want to call it, it's very intricate
is decluttering your processes.
So first, I want to define what that means.
Confirming your processes means looking at the way you do things and removing as much friction
as possible.
And I started really thinking hard about this when I was following Denise Dunfield, Thomas,
and she, she did an episode talking about removing friction and she talked about how she removes
friction from the things she does in her life and I, and then I started like going deeper
into this.
So that's really where I got the idea of this from and I just went like really deep into
it.
So you can look at everything.
So when I work with people, what I really do is I spend some time, a session, maybe even
more than one session, talking about every little thing they do in their life.
Like what do you do when you wake up in the morning?
What is the process?
How do you get ready?
Do you get breakfast?
What do you do when you drive to work?
How do you spend every moment of your time?
I really do this because it matters the way you spend your time.
As an example, so say there's a person who gets up in the morning and the first thing they
do is they turn the TV on.
This is a habit.
Like we all have these little habits, right?
They turn the TV on and they put the news on whatever news they watch.
I don't care what it is.
I believe that if you want to reduce stress, anxiety, all you have to do is shut the news
off and never watch it again and you'll improve your life by probably 95% because the news
is horrible.
That's not very accurate, right?
So they turn the news off.
That's the first thing.
That is an energy right there, okay?
That is a process that they have when they wake up in the morning.
They go make their coffee.
They start to get ready.
The news is on in the background.
They're a little bit stressed about listening to the news.
They don't feel like working out.
They're a little down.
Then they decide to check their email before they go to work.
Then they end up spending like a good 20 minutes checking emails and sitting there while the
news is on.
Okay.
Now I can think of like a million things that you could do to improve this morning already.
So first things first, don't touch your phone at all.
Like don't touch your phone until after you have like breakfast.
Just leave it unless you're getting an important phone call or an emergency text message, don't
touch your phone.
Just leave it.
Don't put anything that's going to add stress, anxiety, overwhelm or discomfort on first
thing in the morning.
What you expose to, the reason they call TV programs, programs is because they program.
You know what I'm saying?
The reason they call, like words are our ones.
So anything we're listening to, music, anything has an effect on our energy.
So what would be better than the news?
Maybe put on some music.
You know, maybe put on some chill music.
Sometimes if you're really stressed or anxious, putting on music without words is even better
because you're not paying attention to the words.
They're not moving through your brain.
Okay.
So the music without words can be very healing.
You could put on maybe like energy healing sounds or something like that, but you could
just put on music without words.
You could put on your favorite music.
You could create a playlist for your morning to like ease you into the morning.
I highly, highly suggest this.
It's so much fun to do.
And then you could share it with people also.
So it's a lot of fun.
So that's, you know, that's one, those are two shifts right there.
Say off your phone, don't put the news on, put some nice music on.
Now how can you make this even better?
So make a cup of coffee and instead of sitting and checking your email because you're not
touching the phone, you're going to have your cup of coffee.
You have all that space now.
You have that 20 minutes that you spent, you know, on your email.
And what can you do?
You could read a page from your book.
You could do a very quick yoga routine, a little stretch.
You could put your favorite song on in dance, which helps release energy from your body.
It helps move energy in your body and automatically reduces stress and anxiety.
You could go into your newly organized, decluttered closet and pick your outfit out.
You could, you know, when you're taking a shower, you could essential oils to your shower or
a shower steamer to make it more comfortable and enjoyable.
How could you add all these little comforts into your life to make every part of this process
smoother?
You could reduce all the friction in the process.
So we reduced friction by having the closet organized because we decluttered our spaces,
right?
Our bathroom is decluttered.
We added beauty back in to our bathroom by getting luxurious towels or whatever, adding
a pop of color, our favorite color, our adding a plant, or maybe just buying ourselves a
bouquet of flowers and putting it on the counter, okay?
This is the power of decluttering, decluttering and then adding the comforts back in.
Think about how much better that feels to start your day, that way, instead of starting
it with email, the news, and just the coffee.
I mean, coffee is wonderful all the time, but you know what I'm saying.
You could change every process in your life.
Like, how do you, maybe you have kids?
How do you get your kids ready?
How could you reduce as much friction as possible when you're getting your kids ready?
How do you get ready for work?
Do you bring your lunch to work?
When did you make that lunch?
Did you do it the night before?
So you don't have to worry about it?
How can you make your mornings so much easier?
So one of the things I would do for myself when I know I have to leave somewhere early in
the morning is I would program my coffee pot or get everything ready so I just have to press
a button.
And yes, you have to, you know, do the process the night before to do this for yourself,
but I always talked about like, I don't like waking up to a sink full of dishes and having
my coffee brewing when I wake up is just, have a meal, I feel like a princess.
And so instead of waking up to a sink full of dirty dishes and having to wash the whole
coffee pot and then brew my coffee as opposed to waking up to a beautiful, clean kitchen,
maybe a bouquet of flowers on the kitchen table and the coffee brewing like someone to make
it me coffee is like the energy is so different.
This is what it's like to declutter the processes in your life.
What is your process for working out?
What is your process for cooking dinner?
How can you make that smoother, better, more efficient, more, it's almost like a standard
operating procedure for your life for every aspect of your life?
Now yes, does that sound like anal and like tedious?
It can be a little bit and that's why it's a, it's a month long process that I do with
my clients when I do the decluttering private 101.
But it's magical once it's done.
It's kind of like you do the work upfront and then you get to enjoy it forever.
So doing the work upfront, figuring out all the frictions, removing the frictions as
much as possible and then enjoying that time and space.
So think about how much more space you have when everything is decluttered and you've
worked out all the frictions in your schedule.
And yes, new things are going to happen, new things are going to come up and you're going
to have to keep doing this work.
But once you do it and you enjoy it and you realize how valuable it is and how much you've
created that flow in your life and you have more space and time and less stress, anxiety
and overwhelm, you're not going to put off doing that type of work.
So decluttering the mind, decluttering your space and decluttering your processes is
exactly how you create more time in your life, more space in your life and more flow in
your life.
You're clearing the energy in every aspect of your life so that that river is flowing
without anything getting stuck.
So this is a very, very intricate way to create more peace in your life.
So I talked about within my community this week about creating peace and defining what
peace means for you because everybody has a different definition of what peace, comfort,
happiness means for them.
But this is one way that you can reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm and create peace,
beauty and flow in your life.
It may be a lot to do the work upfront, but doing little steps at the time, like you
don't have to do like an intensive month, one-on-one with me to do this work, you can do this yourself.
You could do it one step at a time.
You can listen to this podcast, write a few things down and then come back to it and listen
to it again and do a few more things.
The best way to do things without creating overwhelm is to take small steps and keep moving
forward.
So it's about being consistent and continuously moving forward and taking those small steps
and celebrating your wins.
You can create this flow in your life on your own by doing just a little bit each day.
So I hope this was helpful.
I'll put some of the resources I talked about in the show notes and if you wanted to go deeper
into this and do this work with me, I will put a link so that you could check out and
schedule a session if that interests you.
So I will link some of the old podcasts I did about decluttering if you wanted to listen
to those two.
Those are some of them from when I first started doing the podcast so they're really old.
I couldn't even repost them.
I was going to try to repost them because I don't even have the recordings on my computer
anymore.
It was like my old computer.
So I'll put links to those also in the show notes.
Okay guys, until next week, take care of yourself.
Love you.
Bye.
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