Hey guys, I can't tell you enough how good it feels
to be back doing solo episodes.
I've been really enjoying this
and I'm very excited about the small shift
that I'm making on the podcast.
And you're gonna notice little things here and there.
Like eventually the artwork for the podcast will change.
I'm not sure if I'm gonna do new colors or what.
I don't really have a plan yet.
I haven't even worked on it yet
but I will be designing some new artwork.
I feel like I need to take new pictures
and that's what's holding me up.
So maybe I'll just take some selfies or something.
It doesn't have to be fancy, right?
But yeah, you'll be noticing some changes over time.
And I've been kind of stressing to my audience everywhere.
Like email on Patreon and all the places
that everything will be completely switched over by August,
the beginning of August, like the first week of August
because then that's when I would have to renew my Kajabi
and I'm not going to be renewing with them.
And so I'm almost finished with my website
and I might switch over to the new one sooner.
So I'm definitely going to be redirecting
teanestinsinn.com to the new website
and testing things out before the Kajabi account is deleted
'cause I have so much information over there.
So anybody that is a client that has bought
some any online programs from me,
I would log in and download what you want to download
and keep what you want to keep
because all of that is going to be disappearing
first week in August.
I'm just gonna say August 1st, 2026
because that really like puts the deadline really specific
and I don't know exactly what day that'll happen
to be honest with you.
So, Nets move on to today's episode
where I'm gonna be talking about how I've been feeling
about working lately and what I've noticed
about just collectively between like family, friends,
clients is that does any of this matter, you know,
what we're doing, you know?
So every Monday lately, right, I wake up
and I always have a plan.
I'm a planner, I always have a list.
I have tons of journals everywhere.
I think I've talked about this before.
And on that list is usually what I wanna get done,
what I need to do and those few things
that I have to do, like have to use.
And I sort of pretty intentional and I usually,
myself, I don't have any trouble getting stuff done.
I am very functional, I don't usually procrastinate.
I just get stuff done as a matter of fact,
I try to get it done as soon as possible
because if I do, then I get to play
for the rest of the day, right?
So that's the way I look at it.
But lately, there's this overall feeling
of does any of this stuff actually matter?
Like it just feels very, I feel very numb
and I'm getting the same thing from like my family,
friends, clients, on social media, I see this.
So, and especially for me when it comes to marketing,
it feels so marketing, feels so unauthentic right now.
I don't know what it is.
So I start to lose my momentum
and then I find myself being inconsistent
with especially with social media.
I'm not gonna lie, I never really liked social media a lot.
I love how you do, you are able to stay connected
with people in different countries and all over the world
and I do like that part of it.
I don't like the part of it where you have to constantly
be posting and like paying attention to it
and like constantly tuned into your phone.
I hate that part of it and I hate how a lot of it is really fake,
you know?
So it's not my favorite thing but it's almost like
when you have a business people really kind of expect you
to have a social media presence.
So I almost feel like I have to have a social media presence
and for a while I let go of my Facebook page.
I do not have a business Facebook page.
I am back on Facebook because I am doing a
yoga need your certification.
There was a group on there, I thought I needed it
but I don't think I really do.
But I'm still on there because I love Facebook marketplace.
I'm not gonna lie.
I love the furniture I get off there.
But anyway, so any who.
So especially when it comes to social media
and then I usually ask myself,
how do I expect anyone to find me
and see the things I'm writing and recording and doing
if I don't communicate with them somehow, you know?
And how else am I gonna do that besides social media?
Like how am I going to get the word out about my podcast?
Yes, if you're on my email list, you'll get notifications
but for new people, like how do I connect with newer people
and bring more people into my audience
and expand into my community?
How do I do that without social media?
It's a big question and that was actually originally
one of the reasons I started the podcast
was to reach more people without social media.
But then how do you let everyone know
you have a podcast with social media?
Like so it's just this like weird, you know,
what came for us, the chicken or the egg, I don't know.
So and then that's when I get back into it.
When I realize that I have to do this really
in order to say connected, but there's a lot of resistance there
and I don't like that.
Like when I'm living my life, I like to be in flow.
This is like my, this is my thing.
This is what I teach too.
It's like go with the flow, what feels good.
Like move towards more of that, right?
And that is not feeling too good to me right now
but I'm still being consistent
because I don't know what the answer is to that.
So I'm enforcing my consistency right now.
And maybe I should just let go and see where it goes.
I don't know, I'm not sure yet.
But I'll be sharing with you when I make
some kind of a decision.
But I also notice this same reluctance to act
like everything is normal in the world
because it's just not normal right now.
Nothing is normal.
Everything is very strange, very disrupted.
And everybody's like struggling to go about the life's norms
because we know nothing is normal.
And we just feel it feels very inauthentic,
I think to everybody collectively right now.
No one wants to do like the mundane work
that we've always been led to do.
Or should I say forced to do kind of
because we all have to eat right?
We all have to live and you have to pay to live,
right?
That's part of this game we're in.
And even if that's getting challenging
for so many reasons, like eating, eating and living
is getting, it's a challenge right now, right?
For a lot of people.
But also because so much of this that we're doing,
like what we're doing seems irrelevant
and almost kind of stupid, right?
Some of it seems so stupid to me.
For example, like a marketing job.
The marketing thing is a thing for me.
I think it feels so stupid and inauthentic,
even though I want to meet more people
and connect with more people, it still feels weird, right?
Figuring is, it's like say someone has a marketing job
and they're figuring out how to get people
to buy more stuff, stuff that a lot of us don't really need,
although some of the stuff we do need, sure,
but it still feels stupid when most people can barely
afford food or an apartment or just to stay healthy.
They can't even afford that.
So I think marketing certain things
feel really inconsistent with what feels good,
inside of our bodies.
And I convince myself that the work that I do
helps people and I do.
I think it does and that keeps me going.
That really does keep me going.
But for some people, they might not have that.
They might not have that in their job.
So like imagining working for a health insurance company,
figuring out how you can refuse to pay more claims
when that's the exact service that people
are actually paying that company for.
Like I wouldn't be able to do that.
Like I would be so unaligned that I'd be miserable.
I'd be so miserable.
And I'm sure a lot of people are.
And that's what I'm seeing.
That's what I'm talking about today.
So why are so many of us feeling this collectively
at the same time?
I've been asking myself that a lot lately.
And I think it has a lot to do with so much corruption
being exposed all at once right now.
And so when that happens, I feel like a lot of us are starting
to question the systems that we've been living in
for our entire lives.
Like I look at my entire life now as almost a lie.
I've been told that so many--
I don't want to get too political on here
because that's not what today's podcast is.
I don't mind talking about politics.
But I've been told that America is the greatest country
in the world.
And it's just not--
sorry, it's just not, especially now.
And I wish that I was told to appreciate other countries
and other cultures and get out in the world more.
And I think you learn that when you travel very quickly
and easily.
But the systems that we're all living in,
like all over the world right now,
are not working for human beings.
For human beings have certain needs.
And right now, collectively, I think none of our needs
are really getting met.
And I think we're very uncomfortable because of that.
I think there's other things that contribute to this feeling.
But that one thing--
I think that's the big reason.
And a lot of people are realizing all the ones
that the people they work for don't give a flying fuck
about any of us.
They really don't.
They work their whole lives.
And then they just get dumped at any moment.
They'll just get rid of you to save a buck,
to save not a lot of money at all.
After you've devoted 75% to 80% of your life and time to them,
that's pretty messed up.
And it's pretty-- I actually have worked with a lot of people
going through this.
People that are my age, that are coming close to retirement.
But then not exactly retirement age, they're still working.
But they're being pushed out.
They make a good salary.
And these companies are realizing if they get rid of them,
they could hire somebody fresh out of college
for half the amount they're paying this person.
And there's no loyalty whatsoever.
And then these people are realizing that they focused
their loyalties in the wrong spot, the wrong place.
So what can we do to feel better?
That's a good question, right?
We all have to work because, like I said, we all got to eat.
But all of us collectively should give the minimum, I think.
And do not go the extra mile thinking that if I do this,
I won't get fired.
Or if I do this, maybe I'll get a promotion
or I'll get paid more because it's not going to happen.
I think they call this quite quitting, right?
This has been something that's been going on for quite a while now.
But I just call it matching their energy.
Basically, that's what you're doing.
You're not willing to pay me a living wage,
you're not willing to give me time off,
you're not willing to be loyal.
I'm going to match that energy 100%.
So, but I think the next thing,
I think instead of focusing on the fear and the negativity,
I think you should focus on what do you want to do?
Most of us have worked so hard in our entire lives working for somebody else
that we don't even know what we like anymore.
We're just so busy, we don't even have time to pay attention to ourselves.
You're like the child that gets no attention from yourself, right?
So, I don't necessarily mean what do you want to do for a living, like, for work.
I mean, what makes you happy?
A lot of us don't even know that.
Is it spending more time with family?
Is that what would make you really happy?
Then ask yourself, can I work from home or work part time?
How can I start incorporating this into my life now, right now?
Because we're living right now, right?
There's no one I retire when this happens.
A lot of us don't have retirement.
So, when is the when going to happen?
Now, it's going to happen right now.
So, how can I do that right now?
I can't quit my job.
Well, can you get a job when you work from home?
Or can you convince your boss to let you work from home?
Even if it's like part time, you know, two days in office, three days home, I don't know,
right?
Get creative.
Or maybe you want to just spend more time outside or traveling than start traveling.
Like get a remote job, travel while you work, or just start house sitting all over the
world, you know, and get paid to do that.
Do you love art like me?
Like I just was like, why am I waiting to do art?
Why don't I just do that now, right?
And just start doing it in your free time here and there, you know, and then, you know,
like my hopes are, and I know this is going to happen for me.
Like I have no doubt in my mind that I'm just going to be able to do this all the time.
This is how I'm going to spend my time.
Eventually, that's all I'm going to be doing.
I only want to be in creation mode.
That's all I want to do.
Because I always, I like kind of examine my life and I'm like, what do I really enjoy?
And I'm like, I enjoy the creative process completely in every aspect, actually creating art.
I enjoy recording.
I enjoy making meditations.
I enjoy writing them and recording them and matching them with music.
I enjoy like, like when I used to make programs for my business, those programs I was talking
about at the beginning, I enjoy the creation process more than anything.
Like once they're done, I tend to lose interest, like in the whole program itself.
And I'm like, I just like, can I just create programs?
Do I have to like do anything else?
So that's my goal to be in that creative process mode because that's what makes me happy.
However, that's going to show up.
I don't know.
So the short, simple answer is be intentional with the way that you spend your time.
Be very intentional.
Like very, very intentional.
So something that I do with a lot of my coaching, mentoring clients is what I call a time
audit.
And what I have them do is journal out how they spend every moment of their day for a week.
Just be complete honest with yourself.
Like if you're scrolling on social media three hours a day, just write it down.
Like because this is the whole, we're doing an audit, right?
So we have to be honest about the way we spend our time.
So that's the first step.
And for a week, because like your weekends and like depending on what your work is, your
days are different.
So doing this every day, it's very intensive way to like, you know,
kind of record every moment of time the way you spend your days, but it's easier to dissect
and to free up time that way.
So then I dissect that time together with the client.
And most of the time we can free up like three to four hours in a week.
And we could take a lot of loads off, like a lot of stress loads off of their time that
they're even if they're still spending time doing the things they don't really want
to do.
You can take a lot of stress off of that.
You remove the frictions, you remove all the things that are interrupting and you're losing
time doing.
Like you remove those.
So I love doing this.
I geek out about it.
I find it to be so much fun actually.
And so it's very helpful for the person.
Then they can take that time and be very intentional how they spend it.
Don't give that time to the, to somebody else who doesn't respect our time, right?
Give it to the places where you want to put it.
You want to spend that time maybe with family or resting or traveling or in nature or creating.
Whatever is important to you, right?
Time is one of our most treasured assets, our time and our attention, right?
And that's what a lot of these kind of technology companies are trying to get from us.
Our time, our attention, our information.
That's big money right now, right?
It's yours and it's one of your most treasured assets.
So don't give it away easily.
So maybe this is what we're all collectively like realizing right in this moment.
You know, I could say for myself for sure, I'm pissed off.
I don't know about you, but I'm pissed.
You know, I'm 57 years old going on 58 and I'm only realizing this recently probably since
my 40s, right?
Where that's when I started to kind of redesign my life.
At least from that point forward, I could be more intentional with my time.
So I'm glad at least I did realize it.
I'm feeling, I think, some people never realize it.
But we're all programmed to believe that it's normal for us to work a job.
We don't always enjoy for the majority of our time in our lives, right?
Like 75, 80% of our time in our lives go to these jobs, so to speak.
It sounds crazy when you say it out loud, right?
But we are programmed and convinced that this is how we have to do it.
We have strangers, raise our kids.
You have women right now because we have no postpartum care.
We have no support for new mothers and fathers, right?
And so they're like popping back to work within weeks and having strangers raise their kids.
Like when you think about it, it's fucking crazy.
It's crazy that we're doing this.
Our kids need us and other countries do seem to notice that.
We are not taking care of our mothers.
We're not taking care of our women.
We are not taking care of our children, the way that we should be.
And I'm not saying that's like our fault collectively.
We're in this very hard place right now, but I think we have to start fighting against
this and we have to take our lives back.
We're convinced that we have to live separate from our families, scattered miles apart,
all to make a few men very, very wealthy.
This is all for jobs.
Think about it.
I remember, so my generation, but I think even for some people my age, they didn't have
this, but I had this where my entire family, a group in Long Island and my entire family
was there.
We used to have get together and I remember having 30, 40 people in my house.
My mom always did a lot of it, a lot of it get together.
My, oh my cousins, aunts, uncles, families, like family friends.
There were so many people there.
We had two ovens.
We had the Italian kitchen and the basement.
We had that, the refrigerator and the garage.
We had that, of course, like, so Long Island.
But yeah, like that doesn't happen so much anymore.
I see, I see it in some families and I'm very happy that some people do have that, but we're
meant to live closer together.
We're meant to raise our families together.
We are meant to support each other, but they have us all doing the polar opposite of that,
where we're all individualized and have no support.
We have no support.
When I was a single mom, I lived two and a half hours from my family and I had very little
support.
It was brutal.
It was brutal.
And that's not the way we're supposed to raise our families.
That's not the way we're supposed to live.
That's not in our hierarchy of needs list.
You know, that's the way we're supposed to be connected.
I think that this, this is the biggest scam in history, like the biggest scam.
And this is all to make a few men at the top very, very wealthy.
So wealthy that they go crazy because they have all this power and then they become absolutely
nuts.
I would go as far to say like all the billionaires are nuts.
They're crazy, crazy.
And it's just, it's too much, right?
Everything's out of balance right now.
So as I said, biggest scam in history is for us.
I'm concerned.
So I just decided to start opting out a while ago.
And I started doing it because I was scared and I'm getting better at this as time passes
and I'm beginning to lose like all fucks given.
Like I just don't give a fuck anymore, right?
And I think that's because I'm older.
Like I think if I was younger, it'd be more scared.
Because like now that I'm older, I'm just like I don't have a lot to risk really.
Like I'm not, I just don't care.
So I live somewhat unconventionally compared to most people.
And I don't talk about it much because people just judge constantly.
They judge constantly.
Can we all just stop judging?
Can we just let people be?
But now like I said, I also just don't care what people think.
And so I'll be sharing more and more about this.
So that if it's something that sounds like something you want, then you could learn from
my mistakes, I guess, or just join me.
And it's also, I think, becoming easier to share because it's more acceptable to be a little
fringy, right?
So it's just getting easier for me to share stuff like this.
And my biggest goal right now, so this is my goal.
How do I retire completely but still live in this capitalist, hellscape system without
a retirement, right?
And I'm figuring it out and I'm doing it.
And I am going to succeed.
Like one of the things I know, no matter what I do in this life is as long as I keep
going, I will succeed.
Sometimes it takes longer than other times, but I'm always going to succeed.
And that's the one thing I know for sure.
But that's a tough one, right?
How do you retire without a retirement in a capitalistic hellscape system?
So if you, you know, but I know I'm going to do it.
And I hope that you guys come along from the right and you can learn to do the same.
I'll be writing more about it here and talking about it on the podcast.
But what else I'm going to be doing?
And I'm so looking forward to this is interviewing people that are living this way.
Like whether they've always lived that way unconventionally.
And when I say unconventionally, it doesn't mean like they're living the way I want to live.
They're just living unconventionally.
It might be a way I don't even want to live.
Like no, thank you.
I don't want to live that way.
Like I don't want to live off the grid.
No, thank you.
I don't want to do that.
But I find people that do that so interesting.
So yeah, I would definitely interview someone that's doing that.
And I think a lot of people are interested in that.
Or they're transitioning over kind of like me.
Like they've lived like for lack of better words in the matrix for their entire life.
And now they're just more, they want to opt out.
They want to opt out of the systems that have been failing them for so long.
And that now they are realizing are so obviously corrupt, right?
So they want to opt out of these systems.
And I think it's a really great way, a really great way to opt out of those systems is to build
new ones while they're collapsing.
Build new ones that are better and more.
And don't go back to more of the same, right?
Build new systems.
Those systems don't work, right?
So build something different.
And when I see people doing that, I am so attracted to them.
Like what are they doing?
Like that's different.
That sounds better to me.
I want to learn more about that, right?
So I don't know all the, I don't know, I don't have all the answers.
I don't know what the right answer is.
I'm just going to talk to as many people as possible to learn some new directions and some new ways
to live that are more aligned with being a human being.
That's it.
I want to be a human being and I want to stop feeling so unaligned with myself.
So I'm excited about this new adventure and I can't wait to learn all the ways to be successful
and happy in a very non-traditional, fringy way.
And I hope you come along for the ride and are inspired to live unconventionally as well.
So let's go to the wild, fun and free side together.
Okay.
Talk to you next week.
